My New Year Resolutions to Overcome Grief

2008 is here and I wish you all a wonderful year. This year is our chance to rebuild our lives and rebuild the   happiness around us. To do that, we need to lose that guilt over enjoying ourselves as though somehow that means we are forgetting our loved ones…enjoyment is not about forgetting, enjoyment is about moving past the pain and seeing that no matter how sad you are, that will never change the reality of death. We owe ourselves, we owe our family, we owe our friends and we owe our lost love…the chance to know that we have learned to live again. So what are my goals for 2008..

• I want to concentrate on  my health. In 2007 I lost 60lbs and feel so much better for that, now I need to get well after this operation and ensure that I exercise at least 3 times per week.
• I want to establish a work goal, one that allows me to continue to reach out to others but also one that allows the bills to be paid.
• I want to find further ways of helping friends and family and creating special moments in their lives.
• I want to work on my feelings of guilt.

They say that New Year resolutions don’t work, well I have achieved 3 out of last years 4….it is about keeping them fresh, keeping them at the top of mind. It is also really wanting the change, really deep down wanting that change..then you will make it happen.

2008 will see more heartache, more sadness but it will also see joyous events, memoral days, laughing, happiness – why do I know this? well, that is the eternal beauty of life