On this day…..we miss you Dad
November 5, 2009 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Bereavement and Children
The 5th of November, 6 years ago at 8.08pm was a sad day for our family. We lost Dad who was such a wonderful gentleman..and gentle man. I will never forget being there with mum as he said goodbye to the world with fireworks lighting up the earth (It is Bonfire night in the UK on the 5th) We always liked to think of that as the world celebrating his life and sending him on his way with such a fitting tribute.
Today I am in London, away from my special mum who I know reads this blog. I hope that regular readers won’t mind me taking this change to say this to mum
Mum…there isn’t a daughter more proud in the world of how you have coped in grief. I know how much you loved Dad, I know how much he loved you and my fear was that you would give up fighting. You have managed to build a life and yet still be there for us …..for that, if it is possible, I love you more each day.
On this day when we will always remember losing Dad, I also want to pay tribute to you. You are a wonderful mum, full of such love and there isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for you….well maybe stroke a chicken so phobia’s excluded!)….I will always miss Dad but having your love, support and strength makes this world a better place.
Dad….we will never forget you, never…hope wherever you are, you have plenty of chocolate gingers to eat….and as I suspect can watch your family continue to grow because of the love you gave them xxx
Lovely post, Anna. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Mum today.
Love to both of you,
Leslie
Dear Anna, you won’t believe this (or maybe you will), but I was talking about Bonfire Night with a co-worker. She studied in London, and during that time, she and friends took the train to Leeds to attend the bonfire. As she was telling me about her experience, I thought of your family. (This was before I read your post.) My heart goes out to you all. What a beautiful tribute and post!
Hugs,
Mary
Thank you, just spoken to mum and she is ok….as she says she misses him everyday….and today is just another of those days. Funny I was driving back from London tonight – a 5 hr drive and all the way up there were fireworks going off….as I thought about Dad it just looked as though the world was celebrating his legacy…lovely. I miss him but what a wonderful night to remember him on….a night about family and a night which is lit up with colour.
Thank you for all your support…you truly are wonderful friends xx
Hi Anna,
I thoroughly understand your feelings as I lost my dad on 4th November exactly 10 years ago and it was also a celebration time then for others and all places were lit up when our family lost the most loving and caring person. I also remember him everyday but yes, this particular day, we miss him even more. Sometimes wishing we could talk to him or at least if he knew how much we cared and how much we miss him. Even after 10 years, no memories have diminished and it’s like we were with him yesterday and he was taking care of us everytime. I know he is still there somewhere caring for us and making our lives happier.
I pray for you and your family and everybody in this world. May God give courage and strength and good thoughts to overcome the loss.
Thanks,
Soniya
Soniya…the feeling is mutual. On days like this I also start to fear losing mum as she is so precious…then I just try and realise that I am a lucky little girl for having parents who loved me, nurtured me and no matter what i did stood by me….then I start to think about what I have gained from the life of Dad rather than what I miss from the death of Dad….make any sense?