Planning for the future
June 22, 2009 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Affirmations of Life
I was inspired to write this post after seeing some wonderful comments from Maggie and Leslie in response to the post Eternal Love. Leslie wrote
“I think what I am doing lately is thinking too far in the future and all I can see is a life of loneliness. I should be concentrating on each day as it comes and I have had some really good ones lately.”
Grief is strange, we are dealing with the past…today…and trying to find a way of enjoying the future. So how do we do that? This is what helps me
- I have written down a sentence which I would love to be mylegacy when I die. I have then put 5 things that I need to do, for people to recognise that legacy. This gives me a dream.
- I then write down a plan for the progress I want to make over the next 12 months with 4 action points.
- I then each month think of what steps I need to be taking to achieve my 12 month aim.
Does it work…not every day!!!…But it gives me something to get up for, something to hope for and on good days gives me a purpose. I don’t know if it will help your grieving process but I thought I would share it with other Widows and Widowers.
Maybe we could talk about this at our online grief support meeting on 10 July?
Dear Anna,
I have taken your advice and written down what I would like my legacy to be. I have also taken the next steps and noted the five things I need to do to make it happen as well as what I need to do to progress in the next year. I really think this will help me to get on with things and look forward to the future. Thanks. It’s amazing how seeing one’s words on paper seems to make them more real. When I feel down I will go back and read them. Your words are so often a comfort and inspiration for me.
Leslie – I am so glad this helps. A couple of other things that I do
a) Put one of the monthly actions as a screensaver on my pc
b) Put post it notes around the house to remind me
We need to keep these at the forefront of our mind…I think that you have just inspired todays blog post! You see we inspire each other