Preparing for a Lonely Valentine’s Day
February 6, 2008 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Building Memorials
When any holiday, anniversary or celebration comes around I like to prepare myself ahead of time, so that the pain of grief is eased. We are now just over a week a way from Valentine’s Day – so what am I doing to ensure that I cope despite that sense of missing the one I love.
- I buy flowers, the flowers that I would have received and put them in the sitting room. Flowers always cheer me up, they
remind me of wonderful memories and also they have such a lovely smell that makes me feel better. - I write a letter each year, go to our special place on the day and read it out. So I start writing it now and thinking about what I want to say and what I want to share about my personal progress.
- I try and arrange going out with a friend on Valentines Day. Or I visit an older family member, just to ensure that I am not wallowing but showing my love to others…
Valentine’s also reminds me that love is such a wonderful emotion. I try and spend some time ensuring that I am not shutting my emotions down and that I feel that I can love again….I may not be ready but it is important to remind ourselves that finding love again is OK, that as human beings we are built to love….a new love will never mean forgetting, it will mean that I have come to terms with the right to be happy again…
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