Regaining your Family Love
October 21, 2006 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Grief
When I suffered loss, the one “immediate gain” was how we grew closer as a family. A long story of how we had drifted apart but the loss illustrated to us how important family is, how being there for each other and having a healthy love should not be underestimated. Here are the lessons that I learned
F= For all our differences – and we as a family had a few!- the bond of love is always there….forgiveness is a wonderful experience.
A=Awareness. When we as a family had to face life after he died, we had to be aware that we all react in various ways. But we were also aware that we had all had loss, we all needed a hug, we were all united in one thing -grief and an eternal love.
M= Memories can be wonderful. We started to laugh, smile when we got out all the photos and remembered the great times.
I= Individuals make up a family, but it was spending time together that we had lost. Now we plan events and ensure that we respect individuality but love our family unit – and arrange time together.
L= Learn to understand your differences and respect them. Every person is different – celebrate the diversity rather than fight the differences.
Y= You must invest time in the relationships just like every other, time is free but the value is immense.
I’ve tried to keep the family together since my husband died six months ago. He was only 56 so we were active and involved with our grown kids. Each Sunday my kids and my granddaughter, Skylar, 2 and a half come over for dinner.
Now, Sunday is football season so besides a free meal the draw for them is that I have the football package.
We all seem to be the most comfortable with each other while we’re aware that a big big presense is missing, but we are also aware that we have to continue making memories.
This is such a beautiful entry, and as we are in the process of grieving the death of my husband’s sister, it is VERY appropriate for me!
Beautifully done! Thank you! I will be passing your link on to friends and family!
blessings
Noreen
Thanks for this contribution to the Healthy & Fit Family Carnival
http://www.babylune.com/the-first-healthy-fit-family-carnival/
What a great reminder not to take things or each other for granted.
Thank you for sharing this post with the Carnival of Family Life. The edition will be posted on Monday.
What lovely comments and hopefully we can all add and share our thoughts so that we can help each other.
MY FAMILY IS FALLING APART MY DAUGHTER WHO IS 14YRS OLD RAN AWAY AND TRIED TO STAB ME WITH AKNIFE… NOW SHE IS IN JUVENILE DETENTION HOME..
MY PARENTS BLAME ME AND CALL ME AND YELL AT ME BECAUSE WHEN ALL THIS HAPPENED WE DID NOT TALK TO THEM FOR A MONTH.. WHEN MY HUSBAND AND I TOLD THEM THEY WENT OFF ON MY HUSBAND AND I …
SO NOW I REFUSE TO TALK WITH THEM AND NOW IN COURT THEY SAY THEY WANT CUSTODY OF OUR DAUGHTER…THEY ARE 60YRS OLD AND NOT VERY HEALTHY MY MOM STARVES HERSELF AND MY DAD OVEREATS..NOW MY HUSBAND IS TRIPPING, HE WAS FLIRTING WITH THE WAITRESS IN BOB EVANS AND NOW AT FEDEX AND WHEN I TOLD HIM DON’T DISRESPECT ME AND FLIRT WITH PEOPLE IN FRONT OF ME… I EVEN SAID YOU WANT ME TO GO AND GET HER NUMBER FOR YOU… HE STARTED GETTIN LOUD…I DO NOT NEED HIM OR THIS NOW OR EVER… I PAY ALL THE BILLS AND I DO A LOT FOR HIM…. HE CAN GO AND BE WITH ALL THEM HOES HE … WHEN I CALLED HIM ONIT HE STARTS YELLIN AT ME AND PLUS HE WANTS TO SAY HE WASN’T INTO PORN ON MY COMPUTER.. BULLONI
SEE YA,
JEWEL