Reliving Good Memories

Earlier I posted about how I struggled to remember my dad in any other way than on his death bed. Carol Scibelli commented say “If you have people around you who remember him and they talk to you about their happy memories with you and him together (the way he looked at you with love, teased each other, etc) this may bring about a new way for you to hold unto a happier image.”

This was excellent advice and I asked my dear old mum when Dad was the happiest in the last few years. She relived a holiday they took together in Croatia. So we have decided to go back there this summer, she is going to dig out the photo’s of him smiling and thoroughly enjoying the scenery and the history of the place. I cannot wait. Again, Carol was right about replacing the bad memories with good ones and I hope this will help. The key though is that I am taking action, I am doing something to replace those images in my head. If you have something that keeps replaying in your mind – think of an action, think of what you can do to replace it with more special moments. Thanks Carol for the advice!