Comments on: Should we love again? http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/should-we-love-again/ Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Mon, 21 Dec 2009 17:46:48 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: anna http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/should-we-love-again/comment-page-1/#comment-981 anna Fri, 22 Feb 2008 17:42:19 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/should-we-love-again/#comment-981 Tiffany and Zathyn I totally agree with the time, but I also believe that the more we hold on to the past the harder it is for us to move on. I remember the night I took my ring and put it in the drawer...I was not saying goodbye, I was saying it is time now to realise that I cannot change what has happened..he is not coming back. I am now single again. That does not mean that I don't remember, it means that I am now realising that if I don't open up my heart then I, in some way have died as well. He would not want that....one day when I am ready someone will capture another little part of my heart...a different part but a part all the same. As always I love hearing your thoughts, your stories and I hope this blog helps in some small way Tiffany and Zathyn

I totally agree with the time, but I also believe that the more we hold on to the past the harder it is for us to move on. I remember the night I took my ring and put it in the drawer…I was not saying goodbye, I was saying it is time now to realise that I cannot change what has happened..he is not coming back. I am now single again. That does not mean that I don’t remember, it means that I am now realising that if I don’t open up my heart then I, in some way have died as well. He would not want that….one day when I am ready someone will capture another little part of my heart…a different part but a part all the same.
As always I love hearing your thoughts, your stories and I hope this blog helps in some small way

]]> By: Zathyn Priest http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/should-we-love-again/comment-page-1/#comment-983 Zathyn Priest Thu, 21 Feb 2008 11:18:04 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/should-we-love-again/#comment-983 I lost my partner to suicide 7 years ago and moving on is something I haven't yet been able to do. I still wear my engagement ring and I refuse to take it off. I agree, the grieving process is different for everyone and some can move on more quickly than others. Maybe one day I will fall in love again, but at the moment it seems far off in the distance. I agree we, as people, have a huge capacity for love but I also think some people can never move onto another partner. Whether or not I'm one of those who can never move on, I'm not entirely sure. I'm sorry for your loss and I wish you happiness in the future. Zathyn I lost my partner to suicide 7 years ago and moving on is something I haven’t yet been able to do. I still wear my engagement ring and I refuse to take it off. I agree, the grieving process is different for everyone and some can move on more quickly than others. Maybe one day I will fall in love again, but at the moment it seems far off in the distance. I agree we, as people, have a huge capacity for love but I also think some people can never move onto another partner. Whether or not I’m one of those who can never move on, I’m not entirely sure.

I’m sorry for your loss and I wish you happiness in the future.

Zathyn

]]> By: Tiffany http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/should-we-love-again/comment-page-1/#comment-984 Tiffany Thu, 21 Feb 2008 00:03:05 +0000 http://www.widowsquest.com/should-we-love-again/#comment-984 I agree that we all need to love and be loved. When Josh died I asked my grandfather how I was supposed to move on with my life when half my life was now gone. He said that our hearts don't have a limit on Love and I would one day find someone and I love as much as Josh without having to love Josh and less . I think that allowing yourself to love someone is part of the grieving process, it will not happen until you are ready. I agree that we all need to love and be loved. When Josh died I asked my grandfather how I was supposed to move on with my life when half my life was now gone. He said that our hearts don’t have a limit on Love and I would one day find someone and I love as much as Josh without having to love Josh and less . I think that allowing yourself to love someone is part of the grieving process, it will not happen until you are ready.

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