Songs For Grief and Loss
May 16, 2008 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Comfort Yourself
Music is a huge part of my life – it cheers me up, it makes me sad, it makes me dance, it makes me relax. The words can be so powerful when you are grieving and going through a bereavement of someone close.
I came across a site which shows the lyrics of songs for grief and loss – is your favourite on there? I saw Candle in the Wind and that reminded me of how Elton John re wrote the words for Princess Diana’s funeral – I don’t know anyone who didn’t cry at those lyrics. 
If you have written lyrics or words I would love to hear about them – you can email me at anna@b5media.com
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Actually, that song was written for a boy who died of AIDS that he received from a bad blood transfusion originally.
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Music never touched my heart like it did when I was grieving. In honor of those I’ve lost I created a web site with over 500 songs about grief and loss. Over 1,000 people visit it each month.
Wow. That’s a lot of traffic. And that’s a lot of grieving, too.
Have you tried therapy or simply talking friends or anything? I mean in addition to your site? I mean, I’ve lost my mom and a daughter who didn’t make it to term tragically and therapy, music, writing, talking to friends, talking to my Dad (who’s the only family member I can trust), and doing a few things that *I* needed to do helped. Wallowing in grief and loss and mourning isn’t healthy for anyone, but carrying someone’s memory is. And there’s a big, gaping difference between the two.
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Thank you for your kind words. I don’t know whether it is because my health has not been great recently…therefore I feel weaker. I am thinking about counselling because I think there is something deep inside. The fear is a symton I think, a sympton for something else?
Makes a huge difference to receive a comment like this…thank you
One thing that has helped me since we lost Natasha to a horrific murder is I have memorial keepsakes of her. I bought memorial jewelry that I wear in her memory so I can talk about her when someone comments on my jewelry. I have also planted a memorial garden with a water pond. The task at first seemed huge and expensive but I found a lot of affordable memorial statues and memorial jewelry here at Memorial Jewelry and Statues. They have affordable memorial items, urns, plaques, and statues that can be so expensive if purchased from a funeral home. We could barely afford to bury our sweet Natasha so I know how hard it can be. You and your family are in our prayers during this difficult time.
ephemeral – Although I created the Memorial Music Library as part of my grief process, I’m doing well now (it’s been six years). I maintain the library for others that find comfort from music. Also, I said the site gets 1,000 visitors a month, but it’s 3,000 a month. So music must play a part in the grieving process for many people. I’m glad I can provide them a place to go. http://www.memorialmusiclibrary.com/
I am feeling very depressed today, upon the loss of my daughter who was killed in a car crash, and then the loss of her 11 year old daughter who we lost 6 weeks later due to the illness of cancer. It was a 2 1/2 year struggle with the disiese. Iam looking forthe websiste Ilistened to a couple weeks ago that had alisting of different feelings to click on to pick from
Judy glad that you stopped by…we maybe can’t take away the pain but what we can do is support you through the pain. One thing I encourage people to do is to think about what you gained from having them in your lives…tell me what did they bring to yours?
The reason why I do this, is that we need to balance that sense of loss with the joy we gained….