Starting to Live again
April 5, 2007 by Anna Farmery
Filed under Comfort Yourself
When you suffer the loss, grief is powerful. The body seems to realise and puts you in a mindset that “gets you through” the bereavement and all the practical realities of the funeral and the months after. For me that numbness really rendered me useless, it was as though someone had taken out my batteries and my emotions. As you move through the challenge is to move from the “getting through” mentality to challenging yourself to see the possibilities. For many this is hard, but it is seeing the new possibilities that see that life flow back to your body. They may be 
different, they may be things that you didn’t imagine before the death but they are possibilities…..once you can see them you can then focus on achieving them. For instance if money is an issue, then see the possibilities of how to earn money and build it to an income that will support you in the future…..once you can see the possibility which is out there, then you need to take small steps to achieve it. Sounds easy, it isn’t but it is POSSIBLE.
I lost my husband a little over a year ago. We had almost 27 yrs. together. For the first few months I felt my head was in a cloud. The cloud has lifted, I know feel like I just got out of highschool and I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. Things are really tough financially, I have no money. Life is scary, I haven’t figured out the rest of my life yet. I still go day by day.
Vickie thanks for sharing that comment – the more we share the more we help others. You are proof that you can come through, there are difficulties to overcome but that you have the strength to get through…wonderful. Keep reading and commenting as it can provide a great way to help others and yourself with the next stage of your life.