• Don’t be scared of being on your own to think. Use the time to think about YOU. One tip I was given was to write the speech you would want someone to make at your funeral, then create an action plan that brings that speech to reality.
• Write down 5 of your strengths and think of how you can build your new life around them.
• Write down 3 things you have always wanted to do and didn’t have the chance. Then make a promise that you will achieve them before it is too late.
• Review what is important to you and ensure the balance of work, family and you represents the right mix of your time.
• Use social networking sites such as Facebook to find those friends that you lost touch with over the years.
• Start a new hobby – remember how my mum started to play bowls, something she had never done with Dad. She was creating new memories rather than living in a world haunted by his loss.

You can find yourself again. I can tell you that every person, during bereavement, feels as though they will not cope, that they cannot or don’t want to live on. However, you as a human being was such a special person when you were single that your spouse chose you, your spouse saw an  individual with wonderful qualities….this time is about remembering what made you special to your spouse and starting to remember what made you that special person that deserved to be loved so intently.

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