Anger and grief was a topic I wrote about last weekend, and one comment that was left was “is it wrong to feel anger towards the one that left you…”
When I thought about it, I couldn’t make up my mind as I think the answer is both Yes and No!

Yes because anger means that you have felt love, yes because loss is emotional, yes because it hurts, yes because death seems unfair, yes because it allows you to cope with your grief.
No because anger doesn’t bring them back, no because anger is not a positive emotion, no because death is …read more

Grief plays with our emotions. Cindy, one of our Widows Quest regular commenters, yesterday felt angry, felt depressed and I felt so sorry for her because I know that feeling. Anger rises when you feel out of control. I feel angry when I want to change what happened, when I think about what a great man he was and how death seems to take the good ones, when I don’t know how I will pay next months bills, when I want to feel happy and I just don’t…
So what do I do to cope with the anger

I allow myself to …read more

Sometimes I feel that I have developed a split personality since my bereavement. Why? Because one moment I feel so much love and such happiness that I have felt the most incredible love and then the next moment I am angry…angry to have lost that one special person in my life.
From love to anger and back again in 60 seconds.
In one sense I love it as after the death I thought I would never be able to feel again, that my whole emotional being had shut down so that I never had to hurt again….therefore the anger and the love, …read more

When we grieve we can become angry, we can hate what has happened to us and our loved ones. Anger is a normal reaction, however I am always reminded of a quote from Mahatma Ghandi
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
As widows and widowers we need to be strong and being able to forgive the death that has affected our lives so much is the first step to starting to rebuild our lives.
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