Dawn Abraham Life Coach presents Power of positive thinking posted at Qualified Life Coach.Com, saying, “Does it sound simple? The power of positive thinking?”

Anna presents How to stay younger and feel brighter posted at The Engaging Brand

Aparna presents Bhramari Pranayam posted at Beauty and Personal Grooming, saying, “It is supposed to create a soothing effect on the nervous system and culturing the voice. It is known to work in relieving stress, reducing anger, anxiety, lack of desire to sleep and blood pressure and eliminating throat ailments. It induces a meditative state by harmonizing the mind and directing the awareness inwards.”

Annaly Curzon presents Phobia – When You Can’t Just Get Over It posted at Working On Me.

Donald Latumahina presents How to Feel Better When You’re Depressed posted at Life Optimizer.

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Adam presents Stages of Grief posted at ZenTactics – Child Abuse Recovery, saying, “Sorry for your loss…Here is an article on the stages of grief…”

Kathleen Gaga presents Daily Awareness: Your best thinking got you where you are at…. so what do you think about that? posted at Daily Awareness, saying, “It is in the day by day choices our life is created. It is in the day by day choices, our happiness unfolds. It is in the day by day choices we design our life or we let life design us.”

Effortless Abundance presents Change Happens: What to Do When Circumstances Shift Unexpectedly posted at The Change Blog.

Derek D. Hambrick presents And for this, thanks. posted at Derek Hambrick’s Blog, saying, “Sometimes positive thinking is thrust upon us by circumstance.”

presents The Driving Force of Tremendous Change posted at The Real Mind, saying, “My article describing desire and how to find the deep motivational force behind positive change.”

Albie presents How you can be a modern hero in your own life? posted at iDevelopWorld.

GreatManagement presents Connect to Happiness at Work posted at GreatManagement Blog, saying, “Happiness is ultimately not in anyone else�s hands or controlled by anyone other than yourself. It is purely a choice you can make.”

Ralph Jean-Paul presents The Ultimate Guide to Giving and Taking Constructive Criticism posted at Potential 2 Success, saying, “A complete guide to giving criticism to friends, employees, and just about any other person in your life. This article also contains ways for you to be able to take criticism gracefully.”

axel presents Cultivating Mindfulness posted at axel g.

Aparna presents Who is a free person? posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming, saying, “inspiring, thought-provoking piece of writing”

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1. Face the world without your loved one
2. Face the world who feel uncomfortable knowing what to say to you
3. Face the problems of others that seem “trivial” to you at this time
4. Not grieve. You want to be free to think about them, to weep for their loss.

But we know that loneliness will only make us feel worse. Some time alone I think is good just to come to terms but when you start rejecting the world, invitations on a regular basis – and even in my case shopping on the internet so I don’t have to bump into someone who is going to ask how I am! – then the time has come to talk to yourself.

Yesterday I was down, I was wondering what life was all about. But then a friend phoned and said “I bet you feel empty. I know that you won’t want to come out, so I am coming over, food in hand, drink in hand and we will have a good old catch up”

She has just arrived and I am so glad that she came over. Already she has brought an energy to the house. Friendship isn’t always about dragging people out of the house. Sometimes it is coming to them and providing almost a half way house to civilisation. Don’t reject those offers of friendships….see it as a sign that you are a good person who people care about….see it as a way slowly of moving through the grief cycle.

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Waiting to die or

Waiting to live?

I always assumed death was the most fearful, after all once it happens who truly knows. That fear of the unknown I am sure has brought Nana back from the edge at least twice this week.

But then you look at the life of a widow or widower after bereavement. That lack of acceptance means that we don’t move on, living is as fearful to the survivor as often death can be to the dying.

In both situations the fear is based on the unknown – though I accept with faith this may not be true. But as I sit here now I realise that as long as it remains unknown…the fear will be there….if we take one step at a time to remove the unknown, well then the fear will eventually be engulfed through confidence and enjoyment

The question we need to ask is

‘Do we really want people to see us as waiting to live then waiting to die…or dying to live!’

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Readers know that I am on a constant roller coaster of emotion…that little old lady called grief manages to shake me to the core every now and then, just to remind me that overcoming a bereavement is hard. So just when it seems easier, just when I seem to be back in control of my own emotions….grief prods me to remind me that it is still there Nice of grief really!

If we do want to be that happy, fun loving person as Gandhi said…then we must BE that person. When we live like that person we trick our sub conscious into believing they are that person. Now the hard bit with grief which we need to recognize is that bad days will still come, that is for sure…and it is a test in our true desire to BE that person…because if we truly do…then we will accept the bad days and as soon as possible get back to BEING that person we want to BE in this world.

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Grief should be based on fact in a way. It is based on a factual happening – that person you love has died. Yet, grief is not matter of fact, grief is not an exact science….grief is all the shades of autumn.

Bereavement and that sense of loss stirs emotions which are on a full spectrum of pain, and those leaves I looked at today almost reflected the rainbow of grief.

• The vibrant reds showing the anger and hurt that he has been taken away.
• The dark browns and black of dead leaves showing the finality of death
• The bare branches – showing the sense of loss.
• The light greens which give that sense of hope that spring will come again.
• The  yellows which show a light at the end of the tunnel.

Nature has a wonderful way of showing us a path through grief, nature has a wonderful love which can comfort us….and nature will always show us that in death is life and in life there is death. Nature knows that there is nothing that can stop that eternal circle of life…

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I know that if I am being truthful that I don’t really value me, I value others ALOT, actually too much as I always feel everyone is better than me in whatever way. I think that is what I miss most…that person who loves you unconditionally and sees the good in you and helps YOU see the good in YOU.

So a question for you today…Do you value who you are right now?

Do you value your strength? Do you value your greater understanding of love, of pain, of happiness? Do you value what you, yourself can give to the world? Do you value the person that your partner fell in love with?

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I cried when I read her thoughts..why? Because I hate people hurting…I so wish that I had a magic bereavement wand that would take away all our pain.

But it made me think about how we emotionally attach to objects….mmmm…but then is it really the object that we attach to? In Leslie’s case it is a house, with me it is a jumper! But when you think about it, we are not really attached to the object we are attached to the memories.

When you think about it, memories are movable…..maybe what we need to do is realise that the object is only a trigger to the memory? Therefore if we find a new trigger than we retain the happy memories….

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“When compared with a controlled group of people who hadn’t lost anyone close to them, the bereaved showed significant increases in blood pressure, pulse rate and changes to their immune and clotting systems, which made their blood stickier and a heart attack more likely. The changes were most marked during the first six months after bereavement and have been pounced on by the media as the first scientific explanation of why surviving partners often die so soon after their loved ones.”

Reading this made me realise the importance of looking after ourselves…we may not feel like living but..

We will….one day

And

We all understand the pain of loss and if we don’t look after ourselves then we will pass that pain on to the people around us.

So starting today I am changing my diet to a much healthier mix of foods…

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So I was interested earlier this month to read about how work – in this case football – had helped Jermaine Defoe cope with the loss of his half brother. He said

“When you are playing, it is the only place you get away from everything. The reason why you play, get on with it and do so well is because that’s where you get your peace.”

I think work can be very useful to help cope with bereavement as long as you don’t use it to mask your pain. If you use it as an escape yet be honest outside of work and allow the pain to come out, then I think that is healthy.

Was work an escape or a trauma for you?

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