Widows Quest » birthdays

Life Experiences Make You Stronger

Anna Farmery — Mon, 26 Feb 2007 14:51:38 +0000

The post from yesterday’s blog carnival that hit home to me was from the Universe of Success A quote that stood out for me was this
“It’s the accumulation of challenging life experiences that teaches you the lessons that you draw on to guide you through your life. Together all these lessons you face up to and rise above allow you to live a happier and better quality of life. Sometimes you don’t realize how fortunate you are until you lose what you had and have to fight to get it back.”

I don’t think that I valued love before as much as I do now – and what a special gift it is.

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Heartfelt Warmth of Friendship

Anna Farmery — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 12:01:32 +0000

Yesterday, was difficult. Celebrating and yet missing. But the wonderful part of the day was the warmth and love from those around me. Often they don’t say the right thing, often I am not sure that they do understand grief but I never doubt that they love me and want me to grow and be happy.

Friends are a wonderful source of love, they give it unconditionally and can fill some of the void that you feel. I just wanted to say that always remember they are trying to help, trying to support you…forgive them little mistakes because they too are human. There will be times they forget your pain, but there are also times when without them you would be totally lost.

If you struggle to want to overcome the depression, the grief, the loneliness do it for them – they invest alot of their love in you, because they want you to survive. For their time and love investment in you, I think we owe them some love, friendship and the occasional smile back!

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My Birthday

Anna Farmery — Thu, 22 Feb 2007 10:39:12 +0000

Birthdays as I said yesterday are tough, they are days that you want to share with people you love. But here are my ways of making the day as happy as possible.

B= Be generous to yourself. Buy a gift for yourself, something that you really want…a gift to say how well you have coped with the loss.

I=Imagine how hard it is for others to know how to say the right thing today. Understand and be open, make it easy for them to love you today. They want you to be happy, allow them to help you be happy today, no matter how hard.

R= Remember that it is ok to enjoy yourself. Grief is hard but laughing and enjoying yourself is a great way of coming through the pain.

T= Talk about the great days you had in the past. It allows you to talk about them but in a positive way.

H= Hold your memories close and enjoy the memories. Smile about the days you were together.

D=Dreams. Use this day to set 3 things that you want to achieve before your next birthday.

A=Arrange to be with family and friends – they are still there and they love you – allow them to!

Y = You are still alive, you still have the gift of life – ensure that each day you value your life it can disappear very quickly.

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