It is Mothers Day over in the UK and for many people who have lost their mother then a difficult day. I am lucky to still have a wonderful mum who is as energetic as ever.
As always on a Sunday I post articles that help with your positive thinking to help you through your grief. Hope these provide some comfort
Anna presents 10 Reasons Why Your Relationship with You Matters posted at The Engaging Brand
Jessica Nagel presents Jessica?s Letter to Lauren posted at Sustainable Halo.

Sam presents What Do My Dreams Mean? posted at Surfer Sam and Friends

axel presents Jet-Like Motivation posted …read more

I was reading an article called Navigating Life After Death over at The Age. It made me think how we block out memories when often it is best to keep those memories. For instance with children removing memories could hurt more than keeping the memory alive. In one example 
“One little girl wouldn’t have it. “Where’s that old chair that sat there? That’s where I used to sit on my daddy’s knee!” Her mother traced the buyer through the thrift shop and put it under the Christmas tree. “
In this example, the chair was connected to happy memories. Removing the …read more

There are days when all of us wonder whether the pain is worth it, when we have no fight left in our body, when we cannot face waking up the next morning….
When that happens it is overwhelming and difficult to deal with, you know there are things in your life that “should” be making you happy, you know that you “should” be grateful for what you have….yet our concentration is on what you haven’t got.
I have never found the right words to comfort myself or others in this situation – I would love to hear your ideas?
But if that is …read more

I find comfort in poems and in music. I came across this at a grief poem website and wanted to share it with any of you who have just lost a loved one, as I found comfort in the words
Always Near as You Walk Along the Lakeshore
And I am no longer with you
Let no tears fall or sorrow prevail
When you see your reflection shimmer in the water
Smile and know that I see your smile
When you feel the cool grass beneath your feet
And the sun’s …read more

I am a huge cat lover, they give me a sense of comfort – they give their love unconditionally and always there when you need a cuddle. Looking after them has given me a purpose on those days when I could not find a reason to live. So I smiled when I saw this article in The Sydney Morning Herald about Oscar
“OSCAR the cat makes his grand entrances just as life is about to leave.A hop onto the bed, a fastidious lick of the paws, then a snuggle beside a nursing home patient with little time left. Oscar’s purr, when …read more

I asked yesterday if anyone had seen their spouse once they had died, well Tiffany answered 
“I have had quite a few dreams with my Josh in them. They have all varied from him just saying hello to him giving me answers to questions that I asked. When ever I dream about him I wake up feeling better. I know that he is with me every day, but there is just something about being able to see him in my dreams that reminds me that he is still here.”
 Oh I do envy that. It must be great to have that comfort. I …read more

Today I have visited the memorial that I built with all our friends as a way of comfort. I took a book and sat and read, and talked to him about what the book was about. No doubt passers-by would think I had lost my mind, but it provides a wonderful comfort to me. I can even hear him arguing with me over certain points that I raise!
I think having a place that you can call your own, that you can go and still feel somehow you are together is wonderful. If you haven’t a memorial, then what about where …read more

Fear is something that we all suffer - fear of going out, fear of loving again, fear of how to cope, fear of the future. I came across this quote on a Lou Tice newsletter:
“I am Fear. I am the menace that lurks in the paths of life, never visible to the eye but sharply felt in the heart. I am the father of despair, the brother of procrastination, the enemy of progress, the tool of tyranny. Born of ignorance and nursed on misguided thought, I have darkened more hopes, stifled more ambitions, shattered more ideals and prevented more accomplishments than …read more