Over the last few months we have arranged times when we can get together just to talk through how we are feeling, how we are coping with grief…how to cope. The online meetings have been great and so uplifiting. Please remember

There is no charge….it is a group of widows and widowers who just want to cope with life..and death.
The meetings are held on the web so doesn’t matter where you live
No telephone call – just visit the site and you can hear people speak. If you want to speak then you will need a microphone but you can just listen
To …read more

In coping with grief – does anyone forget about who you really are?
I know that in so many ways I had defined myself by my relationship, so much so that I now struggle with knowing who I am. Funny really because my partner was someone who wasn’t controlling, he actually encouraged my independence.
I wonder whether my struggle to know who I am, is less about reality but more in my own perception? I feel loss, and loss in its own definition means something missing. Therefore I feel that something is missing in me. In reality though I am still me, …read more

Each Sunday I post articles which will help with our depression and get us thinking more positively. Enjoy

Snowden presents Inspiration for Women: Timer Tools for Productivity posted at Inspiration for women., saying, “A blog about a free timer and how you can use it to increase your personal productivity and improve your life.”

Frankie Minus Johnny presents Self-Hate posted at Frankie Minus Johnny, saying, “Setting realistic expectations grounded in truth may not instantly transform me into a superstar, but it will help increase my self-love and decrease my self-hate.”

Aparna presents Who is a free person? posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming.

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My friend is a widow who has 3 small children and I often write about how much I learn from them…yesterday yet again they showed me a wonderful way of coping with grief.
When I went around the eldest boy was blowing up balloons, after blowing up about 6 in a row he then painstakingly tied ribbon to them….he then gathered them up and asked us to go into the garden. He smiled as he let each one fly away in the wind.
I asked him what the balloons were for and he said “His mum had given him a pack of …read more

Widows Quest has become more than a blog it has become a community for friends who are coping with grief. If you feel low, or in need of speaking to people who understand bereavement then just register your name over at the Widows Quest wiki and I will send you the log in details. I have asked on the site about availability on 4th, 5th or 6th June…would be great to see you there.
It was wonderful to hear peoples voices for our first get together in May – for those of you who didn’t join in, all you need is …read more

Widows Quest had its first get together last night. We used Gotomeeing which mean that we all logged on to a website and we could all hear each other and talk to each other (Well almost Leslie!)
It was wonderful and my only hope is that we have more people join us next month…as just being together for an hour so helped me so much. Hearing others talking about coping with grief, knowing they truly understood the pain, feeling the love and support was fantastic! We plan another event at the beginning of June so watch out for details.
But I want …read more

I am excited by our planned phone call on Friday night – 6pm New York time and of course if any other widows and widowers want to join us and talk about how they are coping with grief, about the blog posts which help most with your bereavement or just for support and friendship – then the details are on our Widows Wiki.
Why am I excited?
Because I know you all understand grief, I know that we have shared hopes, shared pains, that we are sharing each others journey through that dark tunnel of pain to that day when we wake …read more

I was reading about Jack Tweed who is the husband of reality TV star Jade Goody who at the age of 27 lost her fight against cancer this week. According to reports he is struggling to be alone in his grief.
There is a fine line between enjoying solitude and feeling the depth of loneliness.I know the importance of checking whether you are using the solitude to hide from life, to hide from the hurt of grief. I know how sometimes it is easier to dissolve into a world of solitude…rather than having to join the world again. But beware that …read more

As widows or widowers we all need a little help in coping with our grief and also finding a way of through the bereavement and back to a life that brings you joy and happiness. Here are this weeks articles to help us through the grief process

Nancy Miller presents Just Relax! 77 Easy, Painless Tips to Focus & Invite Tranquility In posted at Nursing Assistant Guides.

VYe presents Is Dream Life Achievable? posted at Sit Down Life, saying, “This post is inspired by a real life experience, as a matter of fact most of my posts are. This post is about …read more

One thing I love about the Widows Quest community is the willingness to share our grief and tips on how to cope with bereavement. Here are quick tips on how to deal with grief and start the recovery during the Valentine’s Day from Louise Zweben, CEO of SympathyTree.com It is only a week away and I hope these tips on coping with grief will help us all. Feel free in the comments to add your own…
Create an online memorial that brings your family and friends together from all over the world to share stories of love and loss, sadness and …read more