…just remember that you are its friend, its confidente, its means of recovery. It means
B = Being there to let it cry as crying relieves the pain
R = Remembering that even when a vase breaks, all it needs is some glue to put it back together. That glue in grief is hope, love and friendship
E = Enjoyment. Your heart needs to balance pain with enjoyment. Enjoyment is the fuel for it to grow and mend. Don’t feel guilty about laughing, going out …..your heart needs that to mend that break, it needs the fuel of life to cope with death. …read more

If there is one night of the year that hits me hard it is New Year’s Eve, and I have never really understood why? We never used to do anything special as neither of us were party goers. I think it is the sense of starting a new year, without him….I think the grief can be explained by
E = Expectations were always high as we faced the new year together, now those expectations are about more about surviving than living
V=Vacuum. For all that you try and fill your life and fill your time…on special nights that vacuum seems stronger.
E = …read more

Wow! I have just read an inspiring book called The Alchemy of Loss. This is a book that tracks the journey of a Abigail Carter who lost her husband in the September 11th disastor.  This book is such an honest reflection of how grief affects and changes you, it makes you smile, it makes you cry…it makes you remember…..but most of all it gives you hope.
I really enjoyed the book, because it seemed so honest and also it showed that you can grow through your bereavement. I have chosen a couple of quotes from the book which I know many …read more

I was with Mum yesterday, and she started to cry when a song came on the radio. I held her hand as she talked to me about the emptiness that she felt since Dad died. As widows and widowers, we all understand that feeling – that feeling that engulfs you when you least expect it.As we walk around we look the same, maybe a little sadder, maybe a little more remote but in essence we look the same. Yet inside our souls there is a difference, there is an emptiness that leaves a huge void in our heart, in our …read more

Music is a huge part of my life – it cheers me up, it makes me sad, it makes me dance, it makes me relax. The words can be so powerful when you are grieving and going through a bereavement of someone close.
I came across a site which shows the lyrics of songs for grief and loss  – is your favourite on there? I saw Candle in the Wind and that reminded me of how Elton John re wrote the words for Princess Diana’s funeral – I don’t know anyone who didn’t cry at those lyrics.
If you have written …read more