I wonder what you would say, I have written down a few sentences – what would you answer ?
Grief is mourning the loss of life, but the gain of memories
Grief is the end of one chapter and the start of another
Grief is the loss of a loved one but the gain of knowing what love truly is…
Grief is the pain of living in the present whilst wanting to live in the past
Grief is knowing what is important and wishing that you had known before…
Grief is personal, individual, yet universal. 

Grief is fear of the past, present and future
Grief is …read more

Grief causes all kind of emotional stress and all sorts of different emotions to flow through your body – anger, sadness, depression, crying, apathy, numbness, loneliness….
I asked yesterday to Let’s Support a Military Widow who is struggling with her emotions. A oouple of comments made me think

Feelings are what separates us from machine. Feelings make us human.
Feelings should be cherished and not feared….it is a sign that we are a living human being.
Feelings are negative only when we see them as negative. If we believe we are depressed then we are…if we see our depression as part of the grief …read more

Grief can be emotionally tiring. This week I have been emotionally tired.
Tired of fighting the pain, tired of concentrating on the future, tired of “trying” to be happy. I seem to be dragging myself around the house, around work….everything seems like hard work.  
I  have bought myself some vitamins, gone to bed earlier, allowed myself to ease off a little at work (as much as possible!) but still the body needs to be recharged.
So I am looking for your help…how do you recharge? A holiday is out at the moment because of money…so what suggestions would you make when crying …read more

I am UK based but have been watching the US elections closely. When I saw Hillary Clinton close to tears and the press reporting that as a positive reason why she won in New Hampshire, it made me smile.
We often fight back the tears, we are often ashamed of our crying…yet the world sees tears as a sign if being a true human being…..tears are not wrong, tears do not show weakness, they show our strength to be a human being…..
Whether they worked for Hillary or not, they work when you are grieving as an emotional outlet for your pain. …read more

…it means that on the downside I will be one year older next month,but on the upside it means that I have 52 weeks to live fully and create a difference in this world.
2= 2 continue to find ways of creating value in other people’s lives. I want to ask each person that I meet one question “What can I do for you that will bring value to your world?” Then deliver it…
0= 0 regrets. Death shows you that regrets are stupid, you can do nothing about them. If you make a mistake, apologise and move on…if you want to …read more

Not only do we suffer the ups and downs of bereavement, we also have to find various balances…

Balance of coping with letting our emotions out and losing control emotionally
Balance of remembering and not letting go.
Balance of not forgetting the past but learning to look to the future.
Balance of being grateful for having loved with the anger at losing the love of your life.
Balance of crying with pain and smiling to show that life goes on.
Balance of honouring the memory and allowing ourselves to feel love again.

There are many other balances like talking to friends but understanding that you cannot talk …read more

Today has been one of those days again! I do so well, I write this blog in a positive way to show that there is a way through grief or loss. Yet today my sadness is welling inside, I just want to let it out…yet, I don’t cry…I struggle to let the emotion out. Instead, I go quiet…I look sad, I want to run away from the world. I can feel the pain inside and just want the pain to come out…want it to flow because I know that if I could cry then it would allow some of that …read more

As you all know I try and stay as positive as possible, as I believe that we determine our level of happiness. Then occassionally I have a day like today. One when I am crying inside and yet they just won’t come out..I think I get so used to appearing strong that I forget how to be weak!
I am going to exercise today as I find the more exercise I do, the more that emotion seems to subside. It   also gives me a chance to talk to myself. Today I feel lost, feel lonely, surplus to requirements to the …read more

I was speaking to a friend today who gave me a “straight talking to” and she was right. I am so interested in coping that sometimes I am actually masking my true feelings, sometimes through coping you are hiding from your real emotions. I am proud of the way I have coped, however speaking today I realised that I was not proud of the way I had hid my feelings – often from me. Why have I done that? Well hiding is   sometimes less painful! If I cope I do not feel the pain of the hurt….so what do …read more

I am delighted with all your e-mails on how much the Sunday night positive thinking carnival helps you all. The range of topics and the great blogs that submit articles has been overwhelming. In fact many e-mails are from people who have not lost their spouse but have had another huge change in their life like Jack who has recently lost his job.
It was part of my New Year resolution to help others, and a big thank you for the feedback