In grief there is this feeling of lacking control. Someone has taken the love of your life from you and thrown at you – money worries, loneliness, emptiness, lack of purpose, lack of energy etc
I remember feeling totally out of control and sensing that I didn’t know which way to turn. If I went out – I felt sad. If I stayed in  – I felt sad. I was suddenly one, or more specifically a two minus one. You know that feeling, the sense that although you are your own human being, part of your soul is missing. A couple …read more

As a widow or widower one of the hardest aspects I find is dealing with loneliness. Loneliness eats at your soul, it reaffirms what you have lost. I think dealing with loneliness is the most important aspect in a way of dealing with grief. At first all you want to be is alone and then you lose the will to go out, I know that I fight the feeling of being a hermit all the time. Here are 6 ways I fight the depression, fight the loneliness – feel free to add your ideas for us all to learn from …read more

My friend has been a widow for just over a year. I was around at their house when I was talking to her 5 year old about how the family was feeling.
He turned and said in a very adult voice (!)
“As I see it when I trapped my finger in the kitchen cupboard in hurt a lot for a while. Mum put a plaster on and I tried not to use it till it stopped hurting. Losing Daddy is like that”
He then walked to the kitchen and came back with a plaster on his chest.
“That feels better now people know …read more