“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes.
Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow.
Let reality be reality”
Lao-tse Chinese Philosopher
For the next few posts I want to pick out some quotes which I have written down from the book I by Jim Clemmer, I told you about in Coping with Change in Our Life.
This quote stood out because it made me think how in a sense – bear with me on this! – it is not the death which creates our grief but our resistance to accepting what has happened. It is our resistance to letting go, …read more

It can’t be! Another week has passed…hey you know we are doing OK, as each week passes we are proving to the world and most importantly to ourselves that we will become stronger…here are this weeks articles to help us through our bereavement and grief

Deon Barnard presents How to be happy in an unhappy world posted at Deon Barnard – Motivation, Training and Personal evelopment, saying, “Tips on finding happiness”
Anna presents Who is at the centre of your world? posted at The Engaging Brand

Vincent presents Have You Forgotten How To Enjoy Yourself? posted at Hit Your Goals.

Anna Callahan presents Law …read more

As normal here are articles which are all based on helping us cope with our grief and for some our depression. I hope these articles help with your positive thinking

Vellervine presents Taking Risks Bravely posted at How to Start Finding My Passion in Life, saying, “Taking risks bravely | Finding passion | Motivation techniques”
Anna presents 5 Ways to Encourage Positivity posted at The Engaging Brand

Aparna presents Who is a free person? posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming, saying, “The people, who risk nothing, do nothing, have nothing; They may avoid suffering and sorrow, but they cannot learn, feel, change, grow, …read more

There is a saying that the first step is the hardest…I sometimes wonder if that is true in the bereavement process?
Why?
Because the first step isn’t often the one that helps start to heal the broken heart…in itself. Of course the first time going out, the first time you meet someone, the first time you go on holiday, the first anniversary are all hard…I don’t dispute that at all. However often the first step is surrounded by friends, often the first step is understood by all as a difficult step for a widow or widower.
But following that you have to start …read more

Grief changes you, I cannot believe that someone can go through a death close to them and not be affected. Often we can concentrate on the bad aspects of grief – of which there are many – sleepless nights, pain, depression etc However, there are good ways that grief affects us.
I know that I have gone on what I can only call a spiritual journey. I have changed. Grief has removed trivial insecurities and also my desire to see what in reality are small problems as major life issues. So I am now much more patient for instance in traffic …read more

The other day I blogged about my depression, I often write in a diary thoughts for the day and here is what I wrote before I went to sleep. I share this because we often forget that the natural course of life involves darkness and light…and that we need to remember in our grief that our bereavement follows a grief cycle. I hope that these words will help you as they helped me to remember that there is always hope….
When the darkness falls, remember the sun will rise in the morning
When the darkness falls, remember the sun is just resting
When …read more

I write this post not to make everyone miserable! I write this post to show that as much as I try and write in a positive way, as much as I try and write to help widows and widowers…even I …yes little old me have those days when NOTHING seems to matter!
It started last night, I don’t know why but depression fell over my body. I realised it was coming and yet I just couldn’t motivate myself to stop it from happening.
Depression – that feeling that there is nothing to hold on to, that feeling of being alone, that feeling …read more

Yesterday I posted about how to start moving forward through grief by giving ourselves some targets. It was great to see that is helped Leslie  – a major contributor to this community, but I thought I would now add how I make sure that the words don’t stay on a piece of paper – how I “try” and put them into action each day.

I put my goals on post it notes and spread them around the house -  the bathroom mirror, the fridge door etc. This means that the dreams are constantly in my eye line and that they help …read more

As always Sunday is about sharing articles which will help us think more positively through our grief. Here is this weeks carnival of positive thinking
!– Carnival Submission –>
Mina Irfan presents Why Hitting Rock Bottom is the Best Thing That Happened to Me posted at The Universe Guru, saying, “I understand that times are tough out there – and it’s difficult to appreciate all this when you might be right in the middle of great despair. Just know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel – and one day soon you will be looking back – …read more

Grief is draining and we need to feed our souls with positive messages and thinking that will help us through our bereavement. Each Sunday I collect articles to help us find a path to happiness.

Srinivas Rao presents 5 Simple tips for Starting the Personal Development Journey posted at The Skool of Life.

Warren presents Strengths and Weaknesses posted at GenerallyThinking.com, saying, “People have weaknesses. I have weaknesses, you have weaknesses, even James Bond had one weakness (women). Here’s what to do about it.”

Lucky Balaraman presents When I Called God with a Complaint posted at Calm and Cool.

ChristianPF presents Purpose …read more