Guilt is something we all feel when we lose someone. We feel guilty that we are still alive, or guilty about enjoying ourselves. Guilt is a normal part of grief. Let me share a story…
Jane lost her husband and for the next few months she didn’t go out – she felt too guilty, she forgot how to smile – she felt too guilty, she survived the days – guilty of living.
One day her sister said to her “What did Jake enjoy?” Jane looked and said “He loved being out with his friends, having a drink and having a laugh”
“And what …read more

After a major loss it is easy to feel the need to immediately “understand” why it happened and “accept” it gracefully.
 
You may even want to superficially dismiss your feelings with “that’s life,” “just deal with it” or “snap out of it, you’ve got to keep going,” but sadly, artificial acceptance interferes with, and slows down the soul’s natural healing process.
 
Healing is a journey, not a destination. A process, not a decision. Allow nature and God (as you see Him/Her/It) to provide you with a highly personal, customized healing plan. Experience it in your own way, through your own emotions, and in your …read more

“As woman cry and men attempt not to, letting them know that their mourning is a step toward the goal of healing will help a man feel more in control.”
Adelle Tilton
If you have experienced a loss, the odds are high that you know a man who is experiencing the same loss, perhaps your brother-in-law or your husband’s father. As you cry and mourn the death of your husband, you probably have seen the struggle that a man goes through when he is confronted by death. How can you help a man deal with grief and find the healing he needs?
The …read more

How do you get up in the morning? Becoming a widow, changes your entire routine. At first, there is no routine and you are just struggling to get through one day and then the next day. But as time goes by, you realize you need a routine that works for you and your kids, if they are still young.
How do you wake up? Do you eek out every second you can via the snooze button on your alarm clock, then race around like crazy to get out the door on time? Do you barely make …read more