I start to smile and start to think

That I am moving forward from the brink

Then something small happens to me

And that step forward I can no longer see

My belief that was shaky starts to drain

As the demons rear their heads inside my brain

One step forward and then two back for eternity

Yes, I know this is what grief will continue to be

A rollercoaster ride of emotions for the rest of my life

Now that I am a widow and not somebodies wife

I will hold on strong and keeping taking that stride

Knowing that he will be watching with utmost pride

Because maybe our life together was not meant to be

But he saw something inside of me

So on those days that I feel teary and weak

I will remember those words that he would speak

“I will love you until the day I die”

And I sit down and think….so will I

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“When compared with a controlled group of people who hadn’t lost anyone close to them, the bereaved showed significant increases in blood pressure, pulse rate and changes to their immune and clotting systems, which made their blood stickier and a heart attack more likely. The changes were most marked during the first six months after bereavement and have been pounced on by the media as the first scientific explanation of why surviving partners often die so soon after their loved ones.”

Reading this made me realise the importance of looking after ourselves…we may not feel like living but..

We will….one day

And

We all understand the pain of loss and if we don’t look after ourselves then we will pass that pain on to the people around us.

So starting today I am changing my diet to a much healthier mix of foods…

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Love runs deep, it runs through the soul your being. It starts in the heart and flows through your veins in a way which you cannot control. When that source of love gets taken away your body, mind and spirit needs to heal.

However, one thing we all have to remember is there is no right time…it will never feel like the exact time. We have to be brave one day and open our heart to friendship at first and then allow love to grow again. It will never replace the love, it will be a new seed that grows and flourishes in a new way.

Guilt can hold you back, but in reality that guilt is in our minds not reality. Our love for them won’t fade or go away, it will live beside the new feelings…..love after all is eternal, it is just humans that die….

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• We can pull our shoulders back and our chin up…..we can walk as though we embrace life rather than suffer life.
• We can smile at people when we are out and about – you will be amazed how people smile back and how your mood lifts.
• We can walk towards life rather than sitting fearing life.
• We can make a point of complimenting others and boosting their self esteem.

It was Eleanor Roosevelt who said “When you cease to make a contribution you begin to die” and if we are to start to live again then we need to increase our contribution to the world around us.

Gosh all this sounds so easy, of course it isn’t….but I do believe the more we contribute to life then the more life pays back with enjoyment.

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Once thing I realised about human nature is that on the first phone call I was very shocked and on each phone call thereafter the shock lessoned. Now please don’t read that as though I don’t care about the later deaths…that is far from the truth, I feel numb, so numb…..but somehow my heart locked itself away from further shock and pain. Somehow death had become a common part of my week, it was no longer something that I wasn’t expecting….it was almost expected.

What I found strange is that we all expect to die, we all expect those around us to die….even though we don’t admit it to ourselves.It sure does make you think about making time in your diary – 4 of the people I lost I was visiting in the next week or so….now I wish I had made those plans earlier. SO here is my lesson for the week

Pain comes when expectation becomes reality, pain lessons when the reality becomes expected!

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I love the fact we found each other

I hate the fact you were torn away

I love the fact that I got to feel real love

I hate the fact I long for that love again

I love the fact he came into my life

I hate the fact he left my life

I love my life

I hate my life

I love my memories

I hate the pain of memories

Do you know what I mean? But I suppose there is a thin line between love and hate

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HighGrace presents Your next 30 years — Face to the Sun posted at Face to the Sun.

Akemi presents What I Know About Life And Death posted at Yes to Me.

Relax presents How to Become a Sleeping Winner posted at The Wise Curve, saying, “Get good quality sleep with Progressive Muscle Relaxation, and proper matress + pillows.”

Chris Edgar presents Calling A Truce In The “War Of Words” posted at Purpose Power Coaching, saying, “Many people seem to harbor the unconscious fear that, if they don’t have a quick and witty enough reply when someone criticizes them, they’re going to be physically injured or die. How do we overcome this fear and regain a sense of composure and control in our interactions? In this article, I describe three approaches I’ve used myself and in working with others.”

ananga presents How to Control Anxiety with Grounding Techniques posted at Ananga’s Living by Design Blog.

Naren Ghimire presents 5 Ways to Stop Complaining and Criticizing Unnecessarily posted at Spiritual Pub, saying, “This article will delve into the psychology behind complaining and criticizing unnecessarily and offer 5 key solutions to stop doing so.”

c.camino presents Scientist Confirm the Power of Happy! posted at Spirit Happy, saying, “Science are recognizing the power of happiness and positivity in clinical studies.”

Sarah Scrafford presents 100 Natural Ways to Overcome Anxiety posted at U.S. PharmD.

omguy presents The Butterfly Effect posted at Ordinary Miracles, saying, “A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours. . .”

Rahul Bhambhani presents How to Deal with Criticism posted at Personal Development Advice, Tools to Improve the Quality of your Life, saying, “Whenever you decide to go against the grain and strive to reach some of your loftier goals, you can bet you’re going to come up against a considerable amount of criticism. For you to succeed in reaching these goals, you must learn to deal with this criticism in a healthy and positive way.”

Shamelle presents Are You Constantly At The Mercy Of Circumstances? posted at Enhance Life.

Stephen Martile presents How to Jump Start Your Day posted at FreedomEducation.ca by Stephen Martile, saying, “Have you ever noticed how important it is to have a solid start to your day? This morning I started this article and I woke up feeling full of energy. Deep down I knew that today was going to be an awesome day. I’m sure you’ve had days like that too.”

Robert Logan presents Believe posted at Emphasizing the positive. Minimizing the negative..

Peter Murphy presents Easy Conversation Starters Anyone Can Use At Work posted at Communication Skills Power.

ChristianPF presents Stewardship – What is it really? posted at Money in the Bible | Christian Personal Finance Blog, saying, “A look at our roles as stewards and how to be a “good steward”"

Donald Latumahina presents Keys to Success from The Dip posted at Life Optimizer.

David B Bohl presents 6 Signs Your Perfectionism Might be Veering into Control Freak Territory posted at Slow Down Fast Today!, saying, “Are you constantly redoing things to make sure they’re absolutely perfect? Do you find yourself noticing pictures on walls that are slightly crooked and straightening them, even if it’s not in your own home? Are you consistently late and always have a pat excuse? Do you criticize and find faults with others, but in your mind, you’re always right?”

Jeff Carlson presents Are bagels healthy to eat in the morning? posted at Gobs Channel, saying, “Bagels and healthiness. Are they really the best thing to eat in the morning?”

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That is true, none of us can know how someone else is feeling. However, I believe that hope is much better than despair. Let me tell you a true story.

Her heart was breaking, her grief was overwhelming her. She couldn’t face life without him. She spent a week tidying her house, setting her finances straight, seeing her friends….then went and bought her tablets and her drink which was finally going to make her happy…and take her to him. She drove into the countryside and swallowed quickly, she couldn’t wait to get to him. As she saw the sky disappear she suddenly realised that she was going to die….she suddenly realised how much she really did value life. Was it too late?

Fortunately a stranger came by that car and she was rushed to hospital….she recovered slowly and as she strengthened she realised how precious life was, how she didn’t want to die, she just had to learn how to live again. She didn’t know how, but one thing she did know was that she had been given a second chance and she was going to find a way…..not a day has gone by without her thinking

• How much she misses him
• How much she loves her family and friends
• And, how much she values life

So when you think there is no hope, just remember that if we give in there is no hope……however, if we continue to fight there is always hope.

How do I know all this to be true, how do I know that living is a gift….well, the person above was me. I know the feeling but I tell you, not one day goes by that I am not grateful to that stranger…..even when my heart is breaking and I feel like giving up.

If you are that lonely, that depressed then tell us all, let us all be there for you….. just like that stranger was for me….

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ananga presents How to Use Your Breath to Relax Your Mind posted at Ananga Sivyer’s Living by Design Blog, saying, “If your mind is behaving like a kid in a waiting room and is really having trouble keeping still and quiet, you need to learn to distract it with mindfulness. Rather than using TV, or rushing about to escape stress and unwanted thoughts, you can distract your mind with something naturally soothing and relaxing, something that can flip the switch between stress and relaxation in minutes. Your breath.”

Stephen Martile presents Are you bigger than your problems? posted at FreedomEducation.ca by Stephen Martile, saying, “Hi Widows Quest, Most people don’t get what they want because they keep doing the same old thing. They keep taking the same actions in hopes of creating a different result. And the reason they do that is because their actions are rooted in fear. They fear taking on new actions. And that is their biggest problem.”

ITAKEOFFTHEMASK presents Poem of Grieving Loss of Loved One posted at itakeoffthemask.com, saying, “Loss of a loved one poem”

Fred Black presents Event Horizon: Black Holes of Failure posted at Fred Black: Internet Business Blog..

Dereck presents When You are Your Own Enemy posted at I Will Not Die.

Arun presents A Matter of Perspective posted at Arun is Bringing You…Your Daily Remedy, saying, “Sometimes, a little perspective is all we need to realize how lucky we are!”

omguy presents The real smart posted at Ordinary Miracles, saying, “Post Summary: Why do some people just seem to have it “figured out”? They just seem to have a gift for living well. They remain resilient in the face of challenges, able to deal with anything and at the same time admired by everyone. New brain research suggests . . .”

Chris Edgar presents Are You A “Star” Or A “Bit Player”? posted at Purpose Power Coaching, saying, “Some people see themselves as “supporting actors” in their lives. In their minds, they exist to make sure the “stars” — perhaps their children, spouses, bosses, or someone else — achieve their goals, rather than to find fulfillment for themselves. If you experience this feeling and want a more balanced perspective, the exercises in this article are intended to help.”

MoneyNing presents Celebrating Thanksgiving is a Must This Year posted at Money Ning, saying, “Thanksgiving is one of the fun holidays of the year! No matter what, you should celebrate!”

Alvaro Fernandez presents Neuroplasticity and the Brain That Changes Itself posted at SharpBrains, saying, “Review of a great book with compelling tales about the amazing abilities of the brain to rewire, readjust and relearn.”

John Buehler presents Celebrating Life posted at Rebuilding Eden.

Nards presents Song of the day: Peace Train – Cat Stevens posted at Nardeeisms.

Donald Latumahina presents 9 Tips to Live an Abundant Life posted at Life Optimizer.

Valeria presents Peaceful Simplicity: 10 Refreshing Ways to Live in the Here and Now posted at Timeless Lessons.

Peter Murphy presents Common Listening Mistakes That Cause People Problems posted at Communication Skills Power.

Louise Manning presents 10 quotes on promise posted at The Human Imprint.

Erin Pavlina presents What Happens When You Die? posted at Erin Pavlina’s Blog, saying, “I’ve gotten a lot of emails asking me variations on this question so I thought I’d do an entire blog entry on this subject to help everyone understand what I believe happens.”

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• Wouldn’t it be too perfect if we could turn the clocks back each time we make a mistake or something goes wrong?
• Would we lose the human nature of being an imperfect human!
• There would be no death….there would be no circle of life….we would just die when the worlds resources could not cope anymore, which would be an even longer, painful death.
• Would we be in danger of not growing as people. Isn’t it through the hard times that you learn the most about yourself and about life?

As much as I would like to turn the clock back at times, when I really think about it….I don’t think I would. My memories are special because they are not perfect, our love was perfect because it was imperfect, I am who I am because of my imperfections and most of all to value life, one must understand death.

What do you think? Would it be good to be able to turn back time?

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