The answers are both comforting – people have found happiness and also painful, for example

Robert Roy had a tragic tale to tell. His first wife, to whom he was married for 23 years, died from cancer four years ago.

“After six months I believed I would never be happy again.” But he did find happiness again, with a loving girlfriend. It didn’t last, though. She was diagnosed with cancer last August and died in March this year.”Now the only thing I can do is … remember that I had found life after grief before … (and) … remember the beautiful moments I had with those two amazing women, without the pain I have today.”

One comment that made me think about grief was

“Leslye Lang, widowed 10 years ago, answered forthrightly: “There is no life after grief. … Grief is now part of who you are.”  “

I am not sure I agree. A death is painful, bereavement brings an end to one part of your life…but as much as it hurts I don’t think we can say “Life is Over”. For me, that part of your life has ended but there are other chapters to write – we don’t know if they will be happy or sad…but life will go on.

What do you think? 

Post from: Widows Quest