This week saw the world lose Michael Jackson and Farrah Fawcett, two people who were very prominent entertainers during my teenage years. Whenever someone famous dies I always have mixed emotions

The sense of loss of their genius – the sense that we will miss their brilliance and of course just the utmost feelings for their family.
Confusion how the world can focus on the death of one person, when each day people lose people their love and face death without the sympathy or empathy of the world.

Death is such a private feeling and yet when someone famous dies..the grief is forced …read more

Widows Quest is wonderful for how people share stories and also thoughts on death and coping with grief. Cindy left a comment to the post Love is Immortal and I thought I would share a quote that she left on the blog
“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside of us while we live.”
by Norman Cousins
…I would add that maybe the greatest loss is when we allow what dies inside, to define who we are in the future. Something may die, but remember the body and mind may live…

Self confidence has always been an issue for me, I know that I miss someone by the side of me saying “Come on girl, you can do it!”. I have always felt a little inadequate, not really worthy of the things around me – not even at times of the love we shared. However in grief you have to find a way of connecting with that inner strength, of connecting with the positive YOU!
When someone dies your partner in life has gone, the dividing of chores disappears – suddenly you have to face it all, on your own.
However, I have …read more

When I was younger I used to fear death, the fear was based on not being able to imagine what it would be like…now since suffering the grief, I almost think that I fear life now more than death ? When you lose someone, some part of you dies and therefore you face or almost feel what death looks like – the unimaginable becomes suddenly real. The irony is that life becomes almost difficult to imagine and because of that fear can take hold.
After saying that I have suffered from fear much of my life and if I have learned …read more

Since losing Dad, Mum and I have grown even closer. We have always been close, always had a special connection but since Dad died, that has become more than a mum – daughter link, more of a best friend feel.
I am having a few days away with her…we are going to the place where Mum and Dad last holidayed together. Mum can’t wait to show me where Dad was so happy. I cannot wait for 2 reasons

Just spending quality time together. I live away and when I go home, we end up in the car , in the garden, at …read more

I was speaking to someone this week who was unsure about whether to buy a gravestone. It made me think about how we remember people. My friend’s issue was that a gravestone seemed cold, seemed bleak and I can understand her feelings.
I actually chose to plant a tree and flowers as for me, this was more about celebrating the life. Almost as one life dies, another begins
What are your thoughts? Do you favour more of a memorial, or do you like the tradition of the gravestone?
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I got an email about divorce and the feeling of grief which I wanted to share although I will keep the man’s name private for obvious reasons.
“I love your blog and yet I am male and not a widower. You may find that strange but last year my wonderful wife of 23 years walked out on me for another man. I was shell shocked as I did not see it coming. My point is that grief is felt by people like me as well as widows and widowers. In fact, I would say the grief is harder….
When you wrote the …read more