When I was growing up I remember watching Jennifer Beals in Flashdance. Though it was never an epic film, it was for me a very motivational film because it was a story about risk, it was a story about believing in your dreams, it was a story about not fitting in.
Last night I watched it again and it had the same effect on me – I learned

Life is about risk. If you don’t push yourself then you may live but you won’t be truly living.
When you feel isolated, it is your perception. To “fit in” change your perception.
When you give …read more

Well done to all of us, we are through another week and a step nearer to finding our feet again after our grief. As always on a Sunday here are some articles that can help with our depression and our feeling of loss

Relax presents “Bad people” are everywhere, maybe not! posted at The Wise Curve, saying, “You can live on the wise curve if you choose to improve your soft skills and interact with others positively. It’s also good to learn to tolerate all kinds of people and accept that people are diverse”

GP presents New Years Resolutions for Keeps posted …read more

For the first week of the New Year here are the articles of hope..

Erin Pavlina presents Choosing Our Emotions posted at Erin Pavlina’s Blog, saying, “A short while ago I was tucking my daughter in to bed, and as I was heading out of her room I noticed to my horror that she had used a red ink pen to gouge her full name into her brand new white dresser. Not something you can wash away, the wood was gouged deeply.”

David B Bohl presents Your End-of-Year Personal Inventory: 6 Signs You May Need an Accountability Partner posted at Slow …read more

I can’t remember who said it but someone said something like “The most valuable land in the world is the cemetery, think of all the treasures, the books not written, the ideas laying dormant” 
When you think about it, it is true. Our loved ones had dreams, our loved ones talked about doing things that now no longer will be possible….one lesson as widows and widowers we should take from that, is that we should spend our time living that dream before it is too late.
Dreams, ideas are just that, unless we find a way of making them reality. If the death …read more

Well done to us, we have coped through our grief another week and hopefully a step nearer to rebuilding our life. As always on a Sunday I post articles that will help us with that positive thinking approach

Anna Farmery presents Are you doodling or creating a masterpiece? posted at The Engaging Brand.
Fruitpunch presents What role does your attitude play in your life? posted at Fruit Punch Diary.

Jirel presents 5 ways to always stay motivated positively posted at Positive and Successful Life Style tips.

GP presents Runnin? Free posted at Innstyle Montana- Come on Inn, saying, “Sometimes I think that I am …read more

Grief can take over your world and stop you from living your life. You are coping with the heartache, coping with the stress of a single life…and you end up living passively rather than seeking a great life or even achieving your dreams.
I realised that if we don’t grab life now, then death will grab us before we live those dreams…so here are some thoughts
Are you thinking about what you can do rather than what you can’t?
Are you thinking about your strengths rather than your weaknesses?
Are you thinking of setting personal goals or getting through the day?  
Are you thinking …read more

…you can feel like there really is nothing left to live for, that is both a common and understandable feeling. No matter what the loss  -your job, your company, your money or indeed the death of a loved one..part of you dies, but do you know the most important part of that sentence…”part of”
When you fall in love, you give a part of yourself over to that other person, when they leave your world that part leaves with them. However, I would like you to think about the rest of you…you gave a PART of your heart, your life…there is …read more

The phrase almost makes me shiver, I have heard many people say “It is a new dawn, it is the start of the rest of your life, it is a new era” I know they mean well and infact they are absolutely RIGHT But somehow they feel odd phrases – maybe because I don’t want a new era, I want my old one back.
But I was scribbling down how I would like to think of fresh….
Forget not hurting, that won’t happen…but learn to cope with the pain.
Remember you still have your life to live, you still have more …read more

I often write about setting goals, of thinking about the future. Today I was reading an email from Lou Tice from The Pacific Institute
 ”Some time ago, a random sample of 1500 graduating college seniors were surveyed to find out what they would base their career choice on.
83 percent said that financial gain was the first thing they would base their career choice on and following their dream, or their passion, would come second.  7 percent said that following their dream would be first and financial gain second.  In a follow-up study on actual net worth 20 years later, what do …read more

I speak to a lot of people who say that they have seen their loved one in a dream, that they have come to them and said “Don’t worry, I am still with you” or something similar. Indeed, my mum says that she saw my dad so clearly that she went down stairs to make him a drink!
I have never had that kind of experience, I wish I had, I would love to see him again. I was just wondering whether any of you had, and did it provide comfort to you?