It has been a while since I jotted down my thoughts. Tonight grief is leaving me numb…not happy, not sad just numb..I wrote this down and maybe you will connect with this kind of grieving
When we face those days when we don’t know how
To face the world and carry on
We must remember that life is a gift to all
And remember to smile and stand up tall
A smile can wash away the fears
And a hug from a friend take away the tears
Grief is not easy but then life is hard too
It is not what we think it is what we all …read more

Last Friday we held our monthly widows support group on the internet and I have to say it was wonderful. On Friday I was not down but feeling a little numb, grief does that every now and again to you, but when I heard the voices of other widows suddenly I felt warmth, I felt energised, I suppose I felt …well, not alone!
So what did I take from the hour we spent talking about our grief, our fears and our hopes for the future?

The difficult balance we all face between holding on to memories and letting go of the past.
The …read more

As widows or widowers we can be caught between two contrasting fears
The fear of leaving the past behind
The fear of living the future.
We don’t want to move on, yet we want to cope with the pain. We miss our loved ones and cannot imagine loving again in the future. We cry for what we have lost, we cry for what the future holds.
But in reality the past is gone, the future is not here…all we have is now – the present. The fears belong to the past and the future, yet are affecting the present. What we need to do …read more

We all often say how wonderful it would be if we could get together…now I know we live in the four corners of the Earth but I wondered whether people would like me to host a monthly telephone meeting where we can share our stories, our hopes, our fears, our journey through grief?
Could you leave a comment if you would be interested in getting together online in April?
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It is great to see that Widows Quest is helping people. Lynn left a comment on Watching Someone Die that made me think about the comfort this blog brings to me.
C =Creates a sense of belonging
O =Offers different perspectives to grief
M = Meaning – gives me meaning to each day, knowing that writing this blog may help one persons pain or connects me with another widow or widower.
F = Friendship that has no strings just one heart
O = Offers hope for the future
R = Raises my spirits on days when I don’t feel I can live through the pain …read more

When we grieve we look for the logic in death, why our loved one has been taken from us, why the world seems to take away the good guys….we look for the logic.
This weekend I was thinking about life in general….and asked myself is there anything about the emotional side of life that is logical?
What is logical about where we were born, who we were borne to?
What is logical about love and who we fall in love with?
What is logical about our fears, about our passions?
When you think about it, why should death be logical? Birth, love is not …read more

Well done on coping with another week of grief….each week that goes by, shows that we have real inner strength to cope. We have to recognise our progress, well done. Here are some articles that will help with our depression, coping with our bereavement and help us to develop our positive thinking

Paul Piotrowski presents 14 Most Common Fears in Life and What To Do About Them posted at Inspired Money Maker.

Will presents 7 Steps to a Happier Life » Your Finish Rich Plan posted at Your Finish Rich Plan, saying, “A lot of people live their lives feeling crappy about …read more