When you are feeling down or lonely, I don’t know about you but I tend to see the pain in my face. When I look in the mirror or catch my reflection in a window…all I see is an aging woman who I just don’t recognise.
I was trying to think the other day of the positives of getting old….?

Experience to handle life?
Memories to cherish
Ability to help younger people develop and grow
Family and extended family
More comfortable in your own skin

Maybe because it is one of those days! (I need our Widows Quest Support Group Meeting this Friday) but then I thought …read more

Do you ever feel that you don’t know who you are any more? I know that I have wondered about who I am now?  Well, here is the magical answer to that problem…
YOU! ….You are unique, you are special because there is only one of you. Loss can mean that you forget about your special qualities that you bring to this world. Depression can mean that you forget about how the world is lucky to have you as part of it’s human race.
When you lost your loved one, you may have lost many things but not your uniqueness. Grab a …read more

As you all know I try and stay as positive as possible, as I believe that we determine our level of happiness. Then occassionally I have a day like today. One when I am crying inside and yet they just won’t come out..I think I get so used to appearing strong that I forget how to be weak!
I am going to exercise today as I find the more exercise I do, the more that emotion seems to subside. It   also gives me a chance to talk to myself. Today I feel lost, feel lonely, surplus to requirements to the …read more

When we are feeling down we often feel out of control, the good news is that we can take control. Here are 3 mind tricks I use to turn my depression into a positive mind set.

We decide our reality. If we believe we are depressed we are, if we believe there are positive aspects to our life then we will feel happier. Write down 3 things that are great about your life – your children, your family, your health, the fact that you have enjoyed the feeling of being in love…..post them around your house and read them out loud …read more

Today is one of those days, you know the kind I mean. One that just feels as though I am going through the motions, nothing engages me, I don’t want to do anything. These days are tough…in a few minutes I am going to get myself out and go for a walk..by the canal, that always makes me feel better.
Emptiness is such a debilitating feeling – that feeling that you have no focus, no reason for being. That feeling that you are crying inside.
I have just got a pen and written down

Why life is precious to me…
What I have achieved …read more

I was reading an article within the Daily Mirror today about grief. I agree with their conclusion that grief can lead to guilt and the best way to overcome the related depression is to help others. Here is a snippet of the article
“One of the greatest griefs suffered by survivors of Auschwitz was dealing with the bewilderment of having survived. Why did I live when so many others died?
But think of the gift of life you have been given miraculously.
Isn’t it worth taking advantage of it? You owe it to your wife if not yourself.
What a waste it would be …read more

Today has been a better day, I have felt better and seem to be getting on an even keel. So how have I achieved that

I shared my feelings with a friend. Vocalising the emotion, helped enormously as it seemed to release it from my head.
I set myself 3 actions for today – easy ones but ones that felt that I was moving forward.
I had an early night. I think when you are tired you struggle to cope with your emotions.
I accepted that I was not a failure for feeling down, it was natural and that it was OK to feel …read more

David Taylor an author has these 3 tips to help us try and overcome depression or negative thinking. I thought I would share them with you
1. Separate out the emotion you feel in the thought by looking at it As-If you were observing it from the outside – say to yourself “How fascinating, I am having a negative thought.” Instantly, it reduces.
2. Ramp up positive emotions by using words like “sensational”, “awesome” and “fantastic, and reduce negative emotions through words like “peeved”, “miffed” and “mellowed”. Next time your partner upsets you, say that you feel …read more

In yesterdays positive thinking carnival there was a post from Walt on Pain is a Highly Concentrated Thought. This had a lasting effect on me especially the quote “The solution to that would be to not think so much on a bad experience, but rather if the thought comes up, think about what good it did for you.” The post goes on to say
“Remember that time when you had a headache or your foot hurt? It hurt and hurt mainly due to your concentration on the pain. But, when your focus and attention shifted to something else, the more you …read more

T Welcome to the February 18, 2007 edition of positive thinking.
ananga presents Moments of Tranquility – Breath Counting posted at Answers from Ayurveda, saying, “Relaxation and meditation exercise for inviting calm – with free MP3 instructions and meditation music”
Deb Serani presents The Broken Heart Syndrome: AKA Stress Cardiomyopathy posted at Dr. Deborah Serani, saying, “This post looks at Broken Heart Syndrome”
Debra Moorhead presents What Would Your Future Self Be Doing Right Now? posted at Debra Moorhead.com.
Matthew Paulson presents Why Focused Intensity Is All You Need posted at Getting Green.
Nneka presents Waiting On The World To Change posted at Balanced …read more