Some thoughts that I wrote down this morning on grief and how it changes you. I came to the conclusion that the change can be good or bad…that is up to the widow or widower themselves to decide….
Grief changes you, but is that necessarily a bad thing? I have learned what loss is like and that has altered the way that I relate to people. I am more grateful, I am more empathetic to people’s needs. I am now more grateful for what I have in life and also grateful for the love that I have felt along the way …read more

When you are left alone after the death of a loved one, you feel alone…so alone. You feel weakened in some way as though you just cannot live without them. Of course this is wrong but it is feels like the truth.
The truth is that we have the power inside of us to not only live but to thrive and also find a new, different happiness – one that we value highly because we understand the depth of emotional depression.
So how do we release that power inside?  This is my humble attempt at finding the power within

Understand that the power …read more

On the news last night was a heart warming story. An 102 year old man called Eric King Turner is emmigrating to New Zealand
“Mr King-Turner said the move had been planned months ahead, although he added: “I have to live from day to day.
“I can’t seriously look past tomorrow morning because at my age people go to bed at night and they don’t wake up in the morning. I’m resigned to that.”
Meanwhile, his wife said she and her husband – who have lived in Hampshire since their marriage 12 years ago – believed they would settle down …read more

I saw this quote from George Bernard Shaw
“If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance.”
It made me smile, it also made me think that you could change it to
“If you cannot get rid of the family grief, you may as well make it dance!”
How would you do that?
Well, by ensuring that life goes on, that you take control of your life again in order to find that happiness, by thinking of how you could create a memorial that encapsulates the values of your loved, yet lost spouse. Dances come in many forms….so …read more