Grief changes you, but is that necessarily a bad thing? I have learned what loss is like and that has altered the way that I relate to people. I am more grateful, I am more empathetic to people’s needs. I am now more grateful for what I have in life and also grateful for the love that I have felt along the way and in that way I think I am a better person.

Grief changes you but is that necessarily a good thing? I have learned that I fear more which can prevent me from moving on, it can prevent me from doing things, it can prevent me from finding happiness. I struggle to let the past go and struggle to let the guilt melt away.

Grief changes you but it is up to us to decide how…..grief affects you in different ways both good and bad. If we are to learn from bereavement then we have to let go of the bad and embrace the good…in that way we help the world become a better place.

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The truth is that we have the power inside of us to not only live but to thrive and also find a new, different happiness – one that we value highly because we understand the depth of emotional depression.

So how do we release that power inside?  This is my humble attempt at finding the power within

• Understand that the power lies within you. Your happiness is down to you..not events, not other people, not fate…it is your decision whether you are happy or not.
• Start each day with a positive thought or goal that you want to achieve each day.
• To change behaviour then you need to change your thinking.
• It is only when you are unhappy with being unhappy that you will find the motivation to change.
• Remember life is about personal growth. It is not what happens to you it is how you bounce back from life’s events that matter.
• Set time for reflection. Reflect on what you really want to do, when you feel the happiest, that life is a journey not a destination.
• Finding happiness is not about large, quick fix schemes. It is about making small steps each day.
• Face reality. In facing reality understand you cannot change what has happened only how you respond.

Of course all this sounds easy…and I know it isn’t! However, today think about the power that lies within you, that you are in control of releasing that power….happiness is there for you, waiting until you and your heart is ready.

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“Mr King-Turner said the move had been planned months ahead, although he added: “I have to live from day to day.

“I can’t seriously look past tomorrow morning because at my age people go to bed at night and they don’t wake up in the morning. I’m resigned to that.”

Meanwhile, his wife said she and her husband – who have lived in Hampshire since their marriage 12 years ago – believed they would settle down quickly.”

Eric got married again when he was 90, and now he is starting a new life. Often we can think our life is over, when we are widowed but Eric really is loving proof that no matter how much you believe that you will never find happiness again – you can. Both in love and in living your dream.

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“If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance.”

It made me smile, it also made me think that you could change it to

“If you cannot get rid of the family grief, you may as well make it dance!”

How would you do that?

Well, by ensuring that life goes on, that you take control of your life again in order to find that happiness, by thinking of how you could create a memorial that encapsulates the values of your loved, yet lost spouse. Dances come in many forms….so does finding your way of being happy again….

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