• Forgiving yourself. I spent so much time wishing that I had done things differently. That I had prioritised family more than work, not that this was deliberate but I look back wishing that I had enjoyed more time at home rather than feeling tired alot. I realise now that the time has gone, that I did the best that I could, that he worshipped me and loved me for my energy with work.
• Forgiving the world for taking him from me. I realise that there is no logic why the good people are taken from us, just that death happens…..and we never know when, we never know where and that I must accept that it was just his time.
• Forgiving him. This sounds harsh and yet I have felt angry that he left me alone…..It wasn’t really anger, it was hurt because I loved “our love” and just wished that we could still be together.

Forgiveness is hard and yet to move on in grief you need to find it in your heart to forgive….after all what is the alternative to live a bitter life? That wouldn’t me, it wouldn’t be the person that my loved one wanted in his life. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting – it just means letting go of the negative and keeping the positive.

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Broderick Allen presents Sowing and Reaping posted at Broderick Allen – Personal Growth and Enjoying Life’s Journey.

GP presents I’m Singin’ in the Barn « Manely Montana posted at Manely Montana, saying, “the blessings of horses”

Michael Miles presents The power of thinking big posted at Law of Attraction – Effortless Abundance.

Aparna presents Secrets of success posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming, saying, “These are a few rules that most successful people follow. It may not be a complete list in itself, but nevertheless some of the rules mentioned below are invaluable and if followed, bound to bring success in our life, business and in almost all walks of life.
1) Begin with that for which you have talent.
2) Centralize your energies.
3) Take excellent care of your health.
4) Save your money, develop habits of industry and money making.
5) Prepare for opportunities.”

Burak Bilgin presents The Right Mindset for Self-Actualization posted at Distiller’s Corner, saying, “It is clear that if we really devote ourselves to self-actualization, we will encounter a lot of situations, where we have to make choices between several options. Which one of our conflicting potentialities are we going to choose?”

Emmanuel presents Finding the right teacher or coven posted at Divine Magic, saying, “In the 1970’s a seeker who wished to find a teacher or coven had a very difficult time. There were few books and few metaphysical stores. Now we have the opposite problem.”

Gal Josefsberg presents Compromise Vs. Sacrifice posted at Questing Soul, saying, “These are my own thoughts on sacrifice vs. compromise. Too often, I would sacrifice my happiness in a relationship because I thought that’s what I should do. Now I realize I should have been compromising, not sacrificing.”

Wally Bock presents Momentor » Blog Archive » In an uncontrollable world … posted at Momentor.

Nadege presents Develop mental toughness by starting your day with an act of courage posted at Clearly Envision.

Donald Latumahina presents 10 Essential Tips to Change Your Life posted at Life Optimizer.

Chris Edgar presents Inner Productivity, Part Four: Some Exercises For Self-Listening posted at Purpose Power Coaching, saying, “Our usual reaction to the distracting thoughts and sensations that come up while we’re working is to either fight them—shame ourselves for experiencing them—or flee from them—procrastinate or turn to some other task. I suggest that, instead of treating those thoughts and feelings as enemies, we try seeing them as messages from our inner guru—the part of us that guides us toward truth, love and abundance in our lives—and look for the wisdom they offer us.”

Malcolm Clarke presents Find Your Ultimate Freedom posted at Mal255 – Poker Strategy, saying, “This blog post discusses everyone ultimate freedom.”

Peter presents 5 Fundamentals for Success in Life posted at The Change Blog.

Applying the Law of Attraction presents Making Positive Eating Choices with the LOA posted at Applying the Law of Attraction Membership Library, saying, “The Law of Attraction can bring abundance into every aspect of your life. What if having too much is your problem? For people who are overweight, too much of a good thing became excess
pounds.”

Will Edwards presents How You Can Walk Through a Storm with Hope and Optimism in Your Heart posted at Self Growth, saying, “There are many times when life gets us down. Life is hard, finances are tight or a relationship breaks up. We’ve all been there and we are left wondering where God was throughout these difficult times. Why did God not help us in our hour of need?”

Erin Pavlina presents Pinpricks of Light posted at Erin Pavlina’s Blog, saying, “Are you at the end of your rope? Are you about ready to let go and call it a life? Are you depressed? Is your light just going … out?”

Paula Kawal presents A Step Beyond Forgiveness posted at Journey Inward Productions, saying, “This article is an Archangelic teaching about taking a step beyond forgiveness with the people that have hurt us most in life.”

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For instance, when we lost my Dad – my sister was very emotional, crying a lot, unable to cope with my mum’s feelings. My mum was quite numb, quite stoical, even joking through some elements of the death. For me, I was the so called “strong” one, I did not show my emotions and dealt with the practicalities. That caused my sister to think I didn’t care as much, which was not true…it was just my way of coping with the sense of loss.

Fortunately, we all knew that we were different, that we were coping in the way that made sense to us as individuals. However, in some families conflict can arise. My tips for family conflict during the grief process would be

1. Patience. Be patient with those around you. Death is emotional however try and see the emotions as part of the grief rather than taking it personally.
2. Give space to those who need to grieve.
3. Seek reconciliation by understanding how people are different.
4. Forgiveness. When we are hurting we can say awful things….forgiveness is a wonderful gift to the human spirit.
5. Listening. If people are emotional, then let them vent, listen to their concerns.

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“The best thing to give to your enemy is forgiveness; to an opponent, tolerance; to a friend, your heart; to your child, a good example; to a father, deference; to your mother, conduct that will make her proud of you; to yourself, respect; to all men, charity.”

I highlight the first part because I think death can feel like our enemy – it has hurt us, it has caused us our bereavement. These words are emotional for me, because I think until we can forgive our loved one being taken away we struggle to move on with our lives. I think I will print this out and put it on the fridge to remind me that forgiveness is such an important part of grief.

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