“Men are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds.”  

As widows or widowers, we can blame fate….we can be angry at what the world has thrown at us in terms of the grieving process, we can be angry about the death of a loved one. If we stay a prisoner to fate, that stops us from moving on and coping with the loneliness and depression. So how can we break free from being a prisoner of our mind?

• Break the chain of thinking that we have been hard done by…death happens, in fact death will come to all of us eventually. It is not what happens in life that determines our happiness, it is how we react to events.
• Take the chains off our heart. Our heart was born to love, our heart needs to love. It is a basic need of human beings. We have loved once and we should allow ourselves to love again.
• The grieving process is part of losing someone but it should not become a life sentence…Once we have learned how to cope with the loss, we can start the rehabilitation of our heart and learn to live again…
• Remember we are in control of our minds…we are our own jailor. We need to find a way of releasing those thoughts of the past and find a way of using what we have learned about life and ourselves to bring joy to the world…again.

Post from: Widows Quest