Yesterday I was determined not to feel sorry for myself, not to give in to those weekend feelings when I feel lonely and when my feelings seem out of control.
So I volunteered to help my best friend in her garden. Gosh it was hard work and after hours of weeding, digging, mowing, and clearing I felt great…why? Well, it is amazing how physical work gets the right positive chemicals flowing through your brain.
I have never really liked gardening and I think it helps it was not something we would have done together…it didn’t bring back old painful memories, it created …read more

I have managed to get into the garden over the last couple for nights – for only 20 minutes but enough to feel the air. I am no gardener but I once out there I have to say I find it really relaxing. I use the time to reflect on the progress I am making….and just use it as my time. It is funny as I look at the plants and I prune them, clear the weeds, replant some I realise   that nature is a mirror for our lives. Times go by, new shoots arrive, others die but the …read more

When we are inactive our mind almost seems to create thoughts, it is as though if we don’t give it something to think about it fills the void. When we are grieving it is even more important not to let your mind rule you. I know the feeling of just “can’t be bothered” or “nothing seems to matter” but to get through it, we need to keep active. These are some things that helped me and please feel free to add your own in the comments box.
Taking a walk
Cleaning! I can assure you not my favourite pastime but it does …read more