One thing I love about the Widows Quest community is the willingness to share our grief and tips on how to cope with bereavement. Here are quick tips on how to deal with grief and start the recovery during the Valentine’s Day from Louise Zweben, CEO of SympathyTree.com It is only a week away and I hope these tips on coping with grief will help us all. Feel free in the comments to add your own…
Create an online memorial that brings your family and friends together from all over the world to share stories of love and loss, sadness and …read more

It is my Auntie’s birthday today. She lost her husband to Parkinson’s disease a few years ago and I have to say that I am so proud of how she has coped. She was devastated, in fact inconsolable for weeks or months, yet now she has found a new life.
She visits my uncles grave regularly, she has never forgotten the love that she shared. However, she came to realise that no amount of prayers, or no amount of wishing….could bring him back. She now belongs to community groups, she goes to exercise classes and yoga…all at the age of 77!
She, …read more

I can’t remember who said it but someone said something like “The most valuable land in the world is the cemetery, think of all the treasures, the books not written, the ideas laying dormant” 
When you think about it, it is true. Our loved ones had dreams, our loved ones talked about doing things that now no longer will be possible….one lesson as widows and widowers we should take from that, is that we should spend our time living that dream before it is too late.
Dreams, ideas are just that, unless we find a way of making them reality. If the death …read more

I urge you to read the comment that Jackie left to Grief Brings Loneliness but I am Never Alone, it touched my heart and I will never see a rainbow in the same light.
I so wish that I had received a sign that he is OK. The only emotion that I ever had was returning to the house on the night he died. I was driving and when I pulled into the house, I started to shiver. I felt a fear that was overpowering. It was like a bad ghost was inside the house, I couldn’t go in. I stood …read more

Death brings that separation and often gives that sense of grief of not being able to say final words to the person you love…well, I came across a site called Justincaseidie which says
“For many people, the worst thing about dying is that you’ll never get to see your loved ones again, or eat another steak, or gaze upon another sunrise. For others, however, it’s that you never got to tell your boss he was a prat.
 
Enter Justincaseidie.com. in just a few clicks, you can save a message that will only be sent to it’s intended recipient if you die. …read more

I saw an article at the Daily Times which talks about the difficulty of not just losing your partner how losing a loved one is life-altering. When one loses a spouse, it can seem like losing several people at once: a best friend, a lover, a trusted confidant. I think that was a huge reason for my depression last week – I didn’t feel that I had someone to talk to, not someone who really understood me. The article is a wonderful story of how widows and widowers are finding comfort in   each other. I don’t belong to a …read more

This is an incredible story that someone e-mailed me.
A friend of theirs has just lost his mother. Yesterday, he went to the church and asked if he could dig the grave. Why? He said his mother was with him when he entered the world and he saw it as his role to give her back to God.
I cannot imagine what it was like, the pain the boy was going through, but it shows that we all cope with grief differently. There is no right, there is no wrong…there is only what works for us.
My thoughts go out to anyone who …read more