Sharing is an important part of the grief process – sharing our feelings, our fears, our thoughts and therefore each Sunday I post articles sent to me which will help us through our bereavement through positive thinking techniques. Here are this weeks articles
Krisdyn presents How to Help the Grieving posted at A Beautiful Life.

Nina presents Ten Powerful Inspirational Quotes and Reflections About Success posted at Metaphysical Teachers, saying, “Sayings and quotes about success can have a powerful effect on you. If you take the time to think about the deeper meaning behind the words, you’ll realize how easily you …read more

Is part of the grief process defining yourself without relying on others?
Often in the comments we talk about being a partner, mother, wife, husband…….all definitions of relationships of love. We rarely talk about just us  – as an individual, as a human being, as our own personality?
I am wondering whether coping with death is about renewing the relationship of love with yourself…we spend so much of our time loving others…do we forget how to love ourselves?
I think that is true for me….in the future I can only love, if I learn to love myself.
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As widows or widowers we all need a little help in coping with our grief and also finding a way of through the bereavement and back to a life that brings you joy and happiness. Here are this weeks articles to help us through the grief process

Nancy Miller presents Just Relax! 77 Easy, Painless Tips to Focus & Invite Tranquility In posted at Nursing Assistant Guides.

VYe presents Is Dream Life Achievable? posted at Sit Down Life, saying, “This post is inspired by a real life experience, as a matter of fact most of my posts are. This post is about …read more

Lizan left this comment to Loneliness – Even in a Crowd
“I sometimes feel absolutely deadly lonely, particularly when facing the weekend. I am so totally alone, it’s painful to think about…….. I am convinced it was meant to be” 
 I think we can all relate in one way to that feeling, when you are going through the grief process. I know I have often felt, was I born to be lonely? I believe though that human beings are born to love, that the ability to feel, the ability to love is what separates us from other species or even machinery! Loneliness takes …read more

Grief causes all kind of emotional stress and all sorts of different emotions to flow through your body – anger, sadness, depression, crying, apathy, numbness, loneliness….
I asked yesterday to Let’s Support a Military Widow who is struggling with her emotions. A oouple of comments made me think

Feelings are what separates us from machine. Feelings make us human.
Feelings should be cherished and not feared….it is a sign that we are a living human being.
Feelings are negative only when we see them as negative. If we believe we are depressed then we are…if we see our depression as part of the grief …read more

Blogging and indeed having all your wonderful comments, really shows me that no matter what culture, how the grief has occurred – the feeling of loss is the same worldwide. Blogging has been a great comfort to me to know that I am not alone, that I am not daft because at times I haven’t coped very well.
Grief really is a universal feeling, one that brings all people together. Blogging is like that too….some things that I have learned about the grief process over the last couple of weeks

Nothing is like receiving comforting words from people who care and who …read more

I feel that courage is something that we need to find during our grief process. Widows and widowers are faced with such a massive gap, massive changes to their lives. Courage is needed to face

Life without their partner
Dealing with the parts of life that you partner would have dealt with
Going out on your own
To believe in the goodness of life

Learning and trusting to love again

Courage is often used in a military context and that makes sense to me as they also face that life and death context. Prior to losing someone we can feel immortal that life is so good …read more

As we journey through the grief process, I have come to the conclusion that part of the process is about the friendship with yourself. You need to work at the relationship with your inner self, here are my quick tips  

 Are you honest with yourself? Honest about your feelings, honest about the lost relationship (sometimes we can look through rose tinted glasses), honest about what you want from the future – it is OK to want to be happy.
Are you honest about the way you feel – do you let the anger and resentment out?
Do you listen to your own …read more

I love the work that the Red Cross does all the way around the world. Today I saw this article on their   tips on handling grief which I hope may inspire you through your bereavement journey. Why I like this article is that it takes you through the emotions that you will feel and shows you that the feelings are “normal” and that you will come through….there is hope!

I wanted to share a real positive aspect of this week. I attended a network event this week in Carmathenshire and met people such as Elizabeth from Bryngweny Farm, Jeanne from Fantastic Women, Sue from S&L Productions, Juliet Fay, Loraine from Kid Me Not, Sue Berry from Enabling   Work, Heather Gorringe from WigglyWigglers and Elizabeth from Llety Cynin.
I often talk on this blog of the need to get out and meet other people, the need to talk to other people to bring you through the depths of loneliness and despair. Friendship is so important during the grief process, reaching …read more