Sharing is an important part of the grief process – sharing our feelings, our fears, our thoughts and therefore each Sunday I post articles sent to me which will help us through our bereavement through positive thinking techniques. Here are this weeks articles

Krisdyn presents How to Help the Grieving posted at A Beautiful Life.

Nina presents Ten Powerful Inspirational Quotes and Reflections About Success posted at Metaphysical Teachers, saying, “Sayings and quotes about success can have a powerful effect on you. If you take the time to think about the deeper meaning behind the words, you’ll realize how easily you can apply these sayings into your own life to achieve the success you desire.”

Paula Kawal presents Angels Speak posted at Journey Inward Productions, saying, “The Angels are giving me more and more information. They say that the world is in desperate need of healing and the call of every human being currently on the planet revolves around this in some way or form.”

Erin Pavlina presents Law of Attraction and the Role of Action posted at Erin Pavlina’s Blog, saying, “Recently someone asked me if you have to take action once you set an intention using the Law of Attraction (LOA) or if you can just set the intention and go on about your merry way.”

Celes presents Get Motivated in 10 Surefire Ways posted at EmbraceLiving.Net, saying, “Do you feel like you are lacking motivation in life now? Being in a slump can be quite a frustrating experience – I know because I’ve been there before too. Here’s 10 surefire ways to increase your motivation.”

Scientific Living presents How to Tell Your Own Future posted at Scientific Living, saying, “How to scientifically tell what is going to happen in your future, why, and how to alter it.”

Catherine VanWetter presents To the Heart of the Matter – Inner Peace Tip: Choosing Faith over Fear posted at To The Heart of the Matter, saying, “At times I think about what faith is too much and discover that is a way to get hung up in the details of faith rather than trusting the divine unfolding. How to enter your day with intention.”

Broderick Allen presents Overwhelmed? posted at Broderick Allen – Personal Growth and Enjoying Life’s Journey.

Stephen Martile presents The Unconscious Mind Power Series 2 posted at FreedomEducation.ca by Stephen Martile, saying, “The purpose of this video is to show you how beliefs are formed and where they come from. This is an important step so that you can understand how to reprogram your unconscious mind and create new beliefs.”

Ken Siew presents CHANGE You Believe In Weekly Series #2 – Belief posted at Think Big & Think Money – Guide to Success & Wealth, saying, “Think bigger than you are. If you want to succeed in life, you have to change your old stinking beliefs first! Believe this – YOU have huge potential.”

Donald Latumahina presents Proven Principles for Managing Your Energy posted at Life Optimizer.

Andrew Heath presents On Starting Before We’re Ready posted at Andrew Heath

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Often in the comments we talk about being a partner, mother, wife, husband…….all definitions of relationships of love. We rarely talk about just us  – as an individual, as a human being, as our own personality?

I am wondering whether coping with death is about renewing the relationship of love with yourself…we spend so much of our time loving others…do we forget how to love ourselves?

I think that is true for me….in the future I can only love, if I learn to love myself.

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Nancy Miller presents Just Relax! 77 Easy, Painless Tips to Focus & Invite Tranquility In posted at Nursing Assistant Guides.

VYe presents Is Dream Life Achievable? posted at Sit Down Life, saying, “This post is inspired by a real life experience, as a matter of fact most of my posts are. This post is about achieving dreams”

VYe presents Dream Life – An Achievable Goal posted at Sit Down Life, saying, “All of us have dreams. Few have a dream car, dream girl, dream lifestyle, dream job, etc. Although all of us have these wonderful things in our head, very few proceed and achieve their dream.”

ananga presents Shifting Focus: Making Choices in Where You Spend Your Energy posted at Ananga’s Living by Design Blog.

Kerry presents What affect do our Thoughts, have on Our Health, Our Relationship and Our Environment? posted at Ancient Wisdom Modern Mind.

c.camino presents Science confirms the power of Positive thinking! posted at Spirit Happy, saying, “Amazing power that we possess..if we use it!”

Karina Harris presents How to Conquer a Case of the Mondays posted at Mind Your Own Business Girls Blog.

GP presents When Life gives you Lemons « Manely Montana posted at Manely Montana, saying, “Making lemons out of lemonade”

Carole Gold presents A Guide To The Unknown posted at Carole Gold, saying, “Thinking and feeling these times are difficult? What if they are filled with adventure and possibility. A guide to successfully traveling the unknown road.”

Ryan Taft presents T.I. Impossible is Nothing | Society is Deaf posted at Society is Deaf, saying, “Don’t forget that impossible is nothin’, your environment is irrelevant Just don’t let your emotions over power your intelligence Refuse to give up, your mistakes don’t define you they dont dictate where you headin’, they remind you That time keeps tickin’, let your mind keep clickin’ Never stop thinkin’, be aware of your decision and beware of the collisions And the potholes hidden in the road that you travel on your lifelong mission Just listen everyday like a snap shot is taken, if you live you could learn if you just be patient”

Wally Bock presents Staying committed to your commitment posted at Momentor.

Burak Bilgin presents How to Write Your Personal History posted at Distiller’s Corner, saying, “Have you ever thought of writing your autobiography? This article might help you doing it.”

Chris Edgar presents Inner Productivity, Part III: Listening To Ourselves posted at Purpose Power Coaching, saying, “In this post, I’ll talk about a new perspective we can take on the thoughts and feelings that tend to disrupt our work. As I say here, we can actually learn to see them as a form of valuable inner wisdom.”

Piotr Stepien presents Propel Human Evolution In Those Three Vital Ways posted at we overstep, saying, “Discover top three ways to boost enormously the evolution of the human kind. Right now nearly all people do the exact opposite which is stopping us in progress. Do you want to know what is stopping us and how to go beyond that? Are you ready for the answers? Here they are in order of importance…”

Isaac Yassar presents How To Realize Happiness posted at Isaac Yassar’s Overture, saying, “People seek happiness. That is the reason of their studying and working, improving their personal quality to achieve success. The question is what will happen after we reach success. Probably the answer is getting piles of money and massive personal consciousness, the mediums to reach happiness. At least that is what most people think. Is that true?”

Kakie presents Is your home a soft place to land? posted at Bur Bur & Friends: Community Park, saying, “Creating a safe atmosphere at home where kids can learn from there mistakes starts at home. Here is how one mother took what could have been a negative situation and turned it into something positive.”

VYe presents Problem is nothing but a state of mind posted at Sit Down Life, saying, “he whole point is – Problem is nothing but a state of mind. It is a condition, when brain is agitated and sends random impulses to various parts of the body.”

jim presents Do You Love What You Do? posted at Blueprint for Financial Prosperity.

Alvaro Fernandez presents Brain Training: It Works, and It Doesn’t Work posted at SharpBrains: Your Window into the Brain Fitness Revolution, saying, “In short, if you are considering buying some of these new programs, for yourself, your patients, a loved one…you do need to do a bit of homework.”

Erin Pavlina presents Quick Answers to Quick Personal Development Questions posted at Erin Pavlina’s Blog, saying, “Does the law of attraction work? Is Levitation possible? Is abortion a sin? and many more questions answered.”

Thea Agnew presents My Daughter’s Way Of Healing posted at Last Train To Clarksville.

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of positive thinking using our
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“I sometimes feel absolutely deadly lonely, particularly when facing the weekend. I am so totally alone, it’s painful to think about…….. I am convinced it was meant to be” 

 I think we can all relate in one way to that feeling, when you are going through the grief process. I know I have often felt, was I born to be lonely? I believe though that human beings are born to love, that the ability to feel, the ability to love is what separates us from other species or even machinery! Loneliness takes hold when WE let it in. 

Now there are days when it is fine to feel lonely, that is part of being human. However, what we have to be careful of as widows or widowers, is allowing the loneliness to take hold, of accepting that as a basic human feeling. I don’t think that is true. I think the basic human feeling is wanting to be loved and accepted, when that is not present then loneliness is the down side.

Hey, words are great but I know bereavement can remove all the meaning from words and the emotions take over your brain! So small steps may be needed to control that loneliness to allow love back into your heart

•  Smile as you pass people in the street and see them smile back.
• Thank people. I got off the bus today and thanked the bus driver with a big smile – he looked back and said that it makes his day when people value him.
• Talk to people when you are out and about. Just a quick sentence, or a remark can start a conversation.
• Go to places where there are other people. I find the cinema a good place as people arrive together but when you are watching the film you are all individuals.

Grief is not about giant leaps of faith, coming to terms with death for me is taking small steps each day.

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I asked yesterday to Let’s Support a Military Widow who is struggling with her emotions. A oouple of comments made me think

• Feelings are what separates us from machine. Feelings make us human.
• Feelings should be cherished and not feared….it is a sign that we are a living human being.
• Feelings are negative only when we see them as negative. If we believe we are depressed then we are…if we see our depression as part of the grief process and learn to start seeing what we can do and what we have rather than what we can’t and what we have lost…then we can start moving forward.
• Feelings are universal…we all feel….we should never feel ashamed of crying in public as it is a sign of our strength not a weakness. I say a strength because we recognise our feelings and are not ashamed to show our pain

I am not going to fear the feelings any more, I will embrace them as part of me. I want to be a   whole human being that feels all the range of emotions – that will make me stronger and a better human being.

After all if we embrace the fear doesn’t the fear go away?

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Grief really is a universal feeling, one that brings all people together. Blogging is like that too….some things that I have learned about the grief process over the last couple of weeks

• Nothing is like receiving comforting words from people who care and who understand.
• If you are open to support…you are never truly alone.  
• Time heals but hearts never forget
• No one knows the answers for grieving…..but we do know that the answers are different for each person.
• Talking about your feelings helps put things in perspective.
• As unique as we all are, when it comes to feelings are we really unique?

I want to thank you all for your support and kindness – here is a virtual hug to you all!

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• Life without their partner
• Dealing with the parts of life that you partner would have dealt with
• Going out on your own
• To believe in the goodness of life
  
• Learning and trusting to love again

Courage is often used in a military context and that makes sense to me as they also face that life and death context. Prior to losing someone we can feel immortal that life is so good it will go on forever. In reality it never will.

I think the more we can find the courage, the more we start to take those first steps to rebuilding your life. I also think that it is important to recognise   that courage. Gaining that courage can be hard, however what we also must see is that courage can be so fulfilling. I remember going out for the first time to a social event…I didn’t want to go…but my friends took my hand and helped me gain that courage. Did I still miss him, of course….however, I also learned that going out did not devalue my love, I could still love and learn to enjoy life again.

Courage is inside if we only learn to trust in our ability as human beings.

What has taken the most courage for you? 

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•  Are you honest with yourself? Honest about your feelings, honest about the lost relationship (sometimes we can look through rose tinted glasses), honest about what you want from the future – it is OK to want to be happy.
• Are you honest about the way you feel - do you let the anger and resentment out?
• Do you listen to your own advice and try and live by it – or do you ignore what you know is good advice. For instanc, I know I must keep myself cooped away, yet sometimes I ignore that and feel worse for it!
• Do you love yourself for being you ?…you existed before you met your spouse…you will exist after their death.
• Do you look for your strengths or concentrate on your failings?
• Do you invest time for yourself, do you treat yourself and pamper yourself like you would a friend?
• Do you make your progress a priority in your life…if you were your friend then you would invest time in getting you through the bereavement?

We are constantly talking to ourselves whether we know that or not…we need to ensure that this talking is positive…we will cope, we deserve to be happy, we love that we are emotional and will use that to grow, we love our strength in adversity….

Are you your best friend or are you draining the energy from your own friendship through negative talk and not bothering to look after yourself? 

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I often talk on this blog of the need to get out and meet other people, the need to talk to other people to bring you through the depths of loneliness and despair. Friendship is so important during the grief process, reaching out to other people is important in helping your heart to recover from the pain of the loss.

It is so easy to sit at home, to hide away from the world but this week has shown me that as human beings we need to push ourselves out, we need to interact with positive people, we need to rejoin society to start rebuilding our lives.

I share the thoughts I have on the pain but today I wanted to share that I am living proof that if you do make that effort then you can start moving forward to a brighter future.

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