If losing someone is this painful why do humans love at all?
Isn’t it strange how you can lose the power of your senses but still feel and show love?
True love is not that romantic love at all, true love is an unwavering, unconditional state of the heart which loves from the soul not the eyes.
When a human is stripped bare, when there is nothing around…what is the one possession which matters? A heart that has loved and is loved.
Life is what we make it, maybe death is what we make it too?

When you love someone, it is not just about loving them whilst …read more

Still at the hospital and it breaks my heart to see her lying there…looking almost childlike. I suppose I am now coming to terms with letting her go as she is finding harder and harder to breathe and you just don’t want her to find anything about life hard.
I had tears last night when I said to her “Its OK Nana, go to sleep…there is nothing to be afraid of Bronco (that is my nickname for my grandad) is waiting for you.”  The tears were recognition that I had to let her go, I had to help her through this …read more

Many of you know that I record an internet radio show (a podcast) called The Engaging Brand. Normally I don’t mention it here but this week I interviewed Jim Clemmer about how we cope with change in our lives. It was a really interesting interview and made me think about

How we put pressure on ourselves by thinking about the expectations of others
How our reality is not something fully defined…it is built from perception, so if we change our perception, we change our reality!

I think that you may find some tips that will help you with your grief. Death is the …read more

Normally I publish this on a Sunday, but with it being Remembrance Sunday yesterday here are this weeks articles to help us through our grief.

Glowing Face Man presents Abundance Mentality posted at Glowing Face Man, saying, “An article about the virtues and benefits of positive thinking.”
Anna presents Who are you…you are a diamond posted at The Engaging Brand

chicu presents the gifts we are given.. posted at Uttarakhand and I, saying, “this blog records a woman’s adventures as she battles with whatever life throws at her..this post is about how life also tends to reward one”

Joe Tichio presents Greatest Inspirational Love …read more

Anniversaries of losing someone is strange.

Why is any day any more important than any other…when missing someone?
Time in some ways helps you cope with anniversaries but never takes away the pain.

I also find that the biggest benefit is that other people give you space, they understand that you may not be 100%, they accept more easily that you are grieving.
The rest of the time although you clearly will never get over the pain, people who don’t understand grief think that you should be progressing back to …what would you say ‘normality’? Mind you that then begs the question what …read more

The 5th of November, 6 years ago at 8.08pm was a sad day for our family. We lost Dad who was such a wonderful gentleman..and gentle man. I will never forget being there with mum as he said goodbye to the world with fireworks lighting up the earth (It is Bonfire night in the UK on the 5th) We always liked to think of that as the world celebrating his life and sending him on his way with such a fitting tribute.
Today I am in London, away from my special mum who I know reads this blog. I hope that …read more

It was Gandhi who made this comment and do you know I feel it is as apt for widows and widowers as it is for people wanting to make societal or political change.
Readers know that I am on a constant roller coaster of emotion…that little old lady called grief manages to shake me to the core every now and then, just to remind me that overcoming a bereavement is hard. So just when it seems easier, just when I seem to be back in control of my own emotions….grief prods me to remind me that it is still there …read more

A wonderful comment came from Rae to the post Happy Halloween about a feeling which I have had on a couple of occasions.  The feeling is that suddenly you forget that they have passed away, that you feel their presence, that you suddenly see them or sense them in the house.
I remember after about 3 months getting so mad that he wasn’t replying or coming through to the lounge when I needed some help to move the television! I had no idea that he had died, to me at that moment he was alive and even annoying (!) as he …read more

After the flu a few weeks ago, well actually a chest infection, this week I have finally started to get myself sorted out…a little. Oh isn’t life or grief, such a rollercoaster…..
To help us all as normal on a Sunday here are this weeks articles to help us with our positive thinking
Anna presents What Do Your Eyes Tell A Person posted at The Engaging Brand
GP presents Changes in Latitude « Musings from Montana posted at Manely Montana, saying, “changes in attitude.. make all the difference”

Cheryl Ragsdale presents Here’s Everything You Need to Know About Saying Yes or Saying No posted …read more

Losing someone you love makes you think about the need for love so deep inside all human beings. Last night I went over to stay with mum ahead of a meeting I was having near her…..and it struck me that as a child you spend much of the time wanting others to see you grown up, wanting to fall in love, wanting to be ‘treated like an adult’.
The irony is that as you become that adult, as you go through the joys and sorrows of life, you value that support and looking after of others. Last night I went home, …read more