As we have enjoyed meeting online for the last two months, I thought I would try and arrange a session for July. If you want to speak to other people who understand about grief, who will listen and share their tips on coping with bereavement…then why not sign up at our widows quest wiki. On the site are 3 suggested dates 2nd, 3rd or 4th July….let me know which one would work for you. We base it on 6pm New York time.

What do I get out of these sessions?

• The feeling of belonging. That I am with people who just…well understand.
• Happiness. People are so good at sharing stories and often such funny memories which make me laugh.
• The feeling of not being alone. Listening to others show me that grief is like a roller coaster….that I am not weak, I am just grieving.

I do hope that you will join us….it is very informal and totally free!

Grief is draining and we need to feed our souls with positive messages and thinking that will help us through our bereavement. Each Sunday I collect articles to help us find a path to happiness.

Srinivas Rao presents 5 Simple tips for Starting the Personal Development Journey posted at The Skool of Life.

Warren presents Strengths and Weaknesses posted at GenerallyThinking.com, saying, “People have weaknesses. I have weaknesses, you have weaknesses, even James Bond had one weakness (women). Here’s what to do about it.”

Lucky Balaraman presents When I Called God with a Complaint posted at Calm and Cool.

ChristianPF presents Purpose + Passion = Performance posted at Money in the Bible | Christian Personal Finance Blog, saying, “The keys to success in life are passion and purpose. When you have both, the impossible becomes possible…”

Bruno Vigneault presents The benefits of giving from the heart. posted at How To Make A Miracle Happen.

Nesher presents Main Causes of Depression posted at Clinical Depression: Symptoms and Treatment.

Erin Pavlina presents The Relationship Between Happiness and Beliefs posted at Erin Pavlina’s Blog, saying, “Do your beliefs make you happy? Do you currently have beliefs that are leading to a happy life? Do you wake up every morning happy and grateful for the life you have?”

Brain Blogger presents What is Free Will? posted at Brain Blogger, saying, “This post continues my discussion of free will and determinism in neuroscience. I believe addressing free will and determinism allows us to understand the underlying theories and implications of neuroscience and social science research as well as the practical application of that research.”

Nina presents Discover How to Live Your Life with Passion and Purpose posted at Metaphysical Teachers, saying, “Living your life with intense purpose renews your passion for life and enables you to be the best you can be. It strengthens your self-confidence and, best of all, brings self-fulfillment. Find your purpose today, and give it all you’ve got!”

Chris_SS presents When People Say “How’s It Going?”, “What’s Up?” or “What’s New?” posted at How to have more social success.

Michael Miles presents Feeling good and the Law of Attraction posted at Effortless Wealth and Abundance.

John Anyasor presents On the Act of Giving Up posted at Living the HiLife2B (in college), saying, “When faced with the opportunity to give up, pass it by before your dreams pass you by.”

Aparna presents Sleeping for long hours is not good for health posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming.

Paula Kawal presents Contracting or Expanding Your Mode of Focus posted at Journey Inward Productions, saying, “Yesterday nature sent some chaos into our lives in the form of our first good wind storm of the year. As we watched it howl we wondered if trees were coming down, whether or not the power would stay on and what effect all of these possibilities might have on the evenings commitments.”

Mina Irfan presents Why Hitting Rock Bottom is the Best Thing That Happened to Me posted at The Universe Guru, saying, “I understand that times are tough out there – and it’s difficult to appreciate all this when you might be right in the middle of great despair. Just know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel – and one day soon you will be looking back – knowing that you made it. And that you always had it in you. Better start now.”

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of positive thinking using our carnival submission form.

Every Sunday I post a set of articles that people send me to help us with our positive thinking in the week ahead. To overcome grief we need to work hard on our thinking. we need to work hard to rethink our goals and how we will find happiness…hope these articles help

Anna presents The Effect of the Fear of Loss posted at The Engaging Brand

Aparna presents Secrets of success posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming, saying, “These are a few rules that most successful people follow. It may not be a complete list in itself, but nevertheless some of the rules mentioned below are invaluable and if followed, bound to bring success in our life, business and in almost all walks of life”

cody butler presents 15 Self Improvement Ideas That Will Change Your Life Today posted at Dream Life Coaching Blog. Ask your questions., saying, “!5 tips to help you improve your life today!”

Michael Miles presents Enjoying every situation posted at Effortless Wealth and Abundance.

Radim presents Does Law Of Attraction Always Work? posted at LivingNewAge.com, saying, “The article mentions concerns that people sometimes have about the law of attraction and questions they ask when if they don’t believe that the law of attraction always works.”

Shannon presents ‘Thankful’ Thursday - How does blogging affect your health? posted at The Daily Balance, saying, “How does blogging affect your health? Learn about the positive affecr blogging has on your mind and overall well-bieng…”

Gal Josefsberg presents The Comfort of Routine posted at Questing Soul, saying, “This really helped me cope with my loss and I hope that it helps others as well.”

axel presents Dalai Lama posted at axel g.

00FF00 presents The World Needs Your Passion posted at ooffoo, saying, “A member of the ooffoo community wants to help you realise your passion. She offers a clarion call for anyone trying to feel fulfilled. Based on the philosophy that we are all needed and that the world needs your passion the trick then becomes how to find out what your passion is. And it’s easier than you think.”

Amit presents The Full Stop Theory posted at Mystic Madness.

JL Scott presents Balancing your personal and your business goals posted at Strategies for Making Money Online and Your Home Business | JL Scott Revolution.

SpiKe presents 3 Practical Steps For Controlling Your Negative Self-Talk - Practical advice on personal development, productivity and GTD posted at Organize IT.

Raphael Araujo presents Kick Ass Living: How To Kick Ass In Your Life posted at Kick Ass Living, saying, “Thanks!”

Khan presents Never Too Late to Learn posted at Higher Education and Career Blog, saying, “Older students are returning to college to start a degree, complete a degree, or gain technical knowledge in their career fields.”

Rick Schiano presents Victory is a Thought Away posted at Ricks Victory Blog.

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of positive thinking using our carnival submission form.

Today is another one of those days, my grieving day! So I thought I would write down what I was feeling as it may help others

I sit, I stare, I try and focus

Yet nothing seems to matter anymore

I look for inspiration in the photos around me

Yet nothing seems to matter anymore.

I dig deep inside and look for your love

Because nothing else matter but that love we shared

Yet there is nothing there, nothing to hold on to

Will it be better tomorrow, next week, next month?

Because I need something, anything to hold on to

I hear your voice telling me to fight, telling me to move on

That nothing matters more than my happiness

Yet to me my happiness was you, my world was you

And in that thought I stay because

Nothing seems to matter anymore

And then in an instance I know

That our love lives on and that it is our love

That really matters, our love that will see me through

Gosh, I know that I am getting old as Sunday is here again and another Carnival of Positive Thinking. Here are articles which hopefully will help us all deal with our grief, our bereavement and start us on a path to happiness.

Anna presents The Importance of Being True to Yourself posted at The Engaging Brand

Warren presents What is Happiness? posted at GenerallyThinking.com, saying, “Is it possible to define something as subjective as happiness?”

Will Edwards presents How to Heighten Your Creativity posted at Making a Difference, saying, “Read essays, articles, or books on creativity and you will more than once you will read that you can heighten your creativity and create new ideas by reading magazines that you wouldn’t typically read. The suggestion is to go to your local newsstand and pick up magazines you wouldn’t ever read and read them for ideas, connections and trends.”

Abigail Perry presents Everything’s amazing and nobody’s happy posted at i pick up pennies, saying, “A good reminder that, even when things are at their bleakest, there are wonders we’re not seeing.”

Aparna presents Beauty and Personal Grooming: Benefits of walking posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming, saying, “Stress fighter and mood enhancer: A regular fitness walking program relieves you of stress by improving the secretion of neuro hormones, which beat anxiety and depression by giving you a pleasant feeling, while at the same time restoring vitality and promoting a sense of well-being.”

cody butler presents 4 Pillars Of Personal Development posted at Dream Life Coaching Blog. Ask your questions..

GP presents The Ease of Horses « Manely Montana posted at Manely Montana, saying, “Life lessons learned from horses”

Burak Bilgin presents Tune Your Reality to Your Wishes posted at Distiller’s Corner, saying, “You can tune your reality by tuning your perception.”

Homespunhealers presents I AM Rich!!! posted at HomeSpunHealers, saying, “This article talks about the power of our thoughts, and the power of gratitude in our lives.”

Ryan Taft presents Don’t Become Numb to the World posted at Society is Deaf, saying, “Don’t let life’s hardships overcome you. Never become numb to the world. Use those hardships as motivation to accomplish your goals and realize your dreams. Read this post and get your day started right!”

Phil B. presents The Advantages of Setting Goals « Phil for Humanity posted at Phil for Humanity, saying, “Setting goals is very important, however not everyone is aware of all the reasons. Here are the advantages for setting goals.”

Christopher presents Attitude Is Everything: “Failure Is Not An Option” posted at The Secret Of Theatrical Space.

Shamelle presents How To Regain Control When Distractions Are Eating Your Time posted at Enhance Life.

Tami Blodgett presents “Inspired Choices For Staying Emotionally Balanced posted at Online Wellness: A Safe Haven, saying, “ng this time of tremendous emotional, mental, physical, spiritual and economic upheaval, it is imperative that we set a conscious intention to stay rooted within ourselves. Catherine offers choices for Staying Emotionally Balanced.”

Erika Collin presents 100 Tips, Tools, and Secrets to Develop a Successful Personal Brand posted at JobProfiles.org - Job Descriptions and Online Schools to Start Your Career.

Dennis Dalton presents Expect Good Things posted at Simple Personal Development and Growth.

Erin Pavlina presents Isn?t there a less painful way to learn spiritual lessons? posted at Erin Pavlina’s Blog, saying, “Why do our spirit guides feel the need to drop us on our asses so painfully in order to teach us the error of our ways? Surely there is a less painful way to learn.”

Will Edwards presents Success vs. Happiness posted at White Dove Books, saying, “Like a lot of Americans, I was raised in a school system that tried to motivate me with some fear. “You better get good grades, unless you want to dig ditches for a living.” Or, “you have to have a goal or a career, or you’ll just float through life,” as if our worth as humans and are happiness was only determined by achieving some constructed measure of success.”

Sigrid Landau presents Establishing A Brand Of Yourself posted at A1 How To, saying, “Establishing yourself as an expert in your field will help you gain both recognition and respect.”

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of positive thinking using our
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Silly question really! Mind you sometimes I don’t want to be happy again as I feel the sense of loss so much. However most days I try and build just one step at a time towards that ulimate goal of happiness.

I was surfing the web today and came across a new site called Happier which has online exercise tools and tips. The goal of the site says it is to

“The happier.com team is working hard to help you “go beyond the books” and provide you with research-backed tips and tools that are proven to help increase positive emotions, boost overall levels of engagement and meaning while also enhancing the quality of relationships.”

I honestly believe that as widows and widowers we need to invest our time in learning to be happy again. If we don’t there is a danger that we start to “enjoy” the pain….I know that sounds harsh but I know for myself that I went through a stage of feeling more comfortable with the pain and no people around than to rejoin life. Now I spend 20 minutes a day doing something that will make someone else or me happy ….

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about what Adele Brookman once said

“Use your imagination not to scare yourself to death but to inspire yourself to life.”

Our minds are so powerful and can lead us to depression during our grief, however our mind is the same tool that will inspire us to happiness.

sat on your sofa with a cup of coffee on a Saturday night with no one to call! Happiness is….. realising that without the love of your life, this is exactly where you want to be and knowing that he will be smiling at the state of my pyjama’s! 

1. From the love that made you who you are….
2. From the desire to keep their memory alive….
3. From knowing that nothing, absolutely nothing, will bring them back..
4. From knowing that life is too precious to give away….
5. From seeing the pain of those around you, who want you to come through the pain….
6. From a life history of knowing that things will “look better in the morning!”
7. From focuing on what you can do rather than what you can’t change…
8. From knowing that they would want you to find a happiness….
9. From deep inside, from that personality that made them love you….
10. From knowing that giving up will feel no better!

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A night late as I was visiting my dear old Nan who is not very well at the moment but here are the weekly articles on positive thinking

Danny Gamache presents The Principle of Thankfulness posted at The Success Professor, saying, “This article shares how cultivating the Principle of Thankfulness can help create a better, more positive thought process and life.”

V & A presents Sit Down Life posted at Sit Down Life, saying, “Stop Running in the mad rush.”

ITAKEOFFTHEMASK presents Finding Your Purpose in Life posted at itakeoffthemask.com, saying, “Finding your purpose in life is often one of the most difficult things we desire to do. What job is meant for you? How do you know what you really want to do in life?”

Louis Burns presents Presuppose Greatness posted at NLP Marketing Blog.

Byteful Project presents Personal Development for Smart People & Travel posted at Byteful Blog, saying, “I discuss how the book “Personal Development for Smart people” encouraged and inspired me. The book is a unified theory of personal growth, and I highly recommend it!”

Peter presents The Winding Path: How I Started a Lifetime of Personal Growth posted at The Change Blog.

AndrewB presents 7 Tips on Becoming an Active Listener | Personal Productivity posted at Personal Hack, saying, “Becoming a more active listener will greatly improve your networking power. It’s amazing how most people don’t utilize the full potential of networking. This is especially true for the more analytical and technical minded like myself. A few years ago I realized how important it was for me to start developing my social skills.”

omguy presents Love, laugh and live posted at Ordinary Miracles, saying, “There is in all of us a void that cannot be filled by big houses, shiny cars or great personal achievement. This void can only be filled by mastering the art of giving and receiving love.”

Yvette Nietzen presents Supernatural Prison Break posted at Fresh Wind Ministries, Int´l.

Mike Salara presents One Change Per Day To A Better Life posted at Mike Salara.

Vish presents The Illusion of Great Work posted at The Power To Realise God Through Self Enquiry..

pnreddy presents How To Introduce The Essence Of Happiness Into Your Life? posted at Self Help Zone.

pnreddy presents 7 Easy Ways To Improve Your Mood And Beat The Blues posted at Self Help Zone.

Pastor WD Favour presents How to Cure Your Sadness posted at wdfavour.com, saying, “Sadness is an emotional experience akin to pain. Pain is a sign of life. A normal human being should feel pain in response to pain-causing stimuli, else there is cause for concern. Similarly, sadness, which is a normal emotional response, is a sign of healthy life.”

Tushar Mathur presents Advantages of Travel posted at Travel-Eat-Sleep, saying, “Mexico is a great travel destination. It’s made up of different interests and cultures. People who travel to Mexico will witness many rich and diverse cultures and entertainment. From museums and opera houses to idyllic beach resorts, travelers in Mexico will definitely not ask for anything more.”

Peter Murphy presents Stuck For Words? How To Rejoin The Conversation posted at Communication Skills Power.

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of positive thinking using our
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