Sometimes bereavement can affect the way you value yourself, it can make you feel less valued as your partner is no longer there telling you that they love you….
I know that if I am being truthful that I don’t really value me, I value others ALOT, actually too much as I always feel everyone is better than me in whatever way. I think that is what I miss most…that person who loves you unconditionally and sees the good in you and helps YOU see the good in YOU.
So a question for you today…Do you value who you are right now?
Do …read more

If you were building a house you wouldn’t just sit and look at a piece of ground and hope that a house appeared! So if we want to build a new life we need to think like an architect of our own life. Grief means that we need to rebuild our life.
Design – What kind of life do you want? Design the life that you want to build so that you can have a picture which you can build towards.
Foundations – All life’s – and houses – are built on solid foundations. Grief causes your life to be turned upside …read more

Each week I post articles to help widows and widowers cope with grief and think more positively about the future. Here is this weeks Carnival of Positive Thinking

Suzanne presents Happiness in 7 steps: Step 1 – I am OK as I am posted at Without Dash.

SmallTownSim presents Even when… posted at Joy’s Journey To Wellness, saying, “In the entry titled, “Even when…” The author shares the struggles she faces daily but allows us to witness her determination in dealing with each challenge.”

GP presents You Gotta Get Out of Your Kitchen « Musings from Montana posted at Manely Montana, saying, “Sometimes, …read more

Here are this weeks articles to help widows and widowers through their grief

PaulWill presents Part 1 – The Journey posted at Can Haz Fitness?, saying, “A article about a journey into positivity and changing your life for the better.”

Britannica Blog presents The Curse of the Talking Heads: Where?s Humility and a Sense of Fallibility? posted at Britannica Blog, saying, “As we all take our daily dose of the ceaseless media-borne battle and prattle among liberals and conservatives and their several subsects (their labels beginning with “paleo-“ or “neo-“ or, more often, and depending on which media outlet you favor, some …read more

As we have enjoyed meeting online for the last two months, I thought I would try and arrange a session for July. If you want to speak to other people who understand about grief, who will listen and share their tips on coping with bereavement…then why not sign up at our widows quest wiki. On the site are 3 suggested dates 2nd, 3rd or 4th July….let me know which one would work for you. We base it on 6pm New York time.
What do I get out of these sessions?

The feeling of belonging. That I am with people who just…well understand.
Happiness. …read more

Grief is draining and we need to feed our souls with positive messages and thinking that will help us through our bereavement. Each Sunday I collect articles to help us find a path to happiness.

Srinivas Rao presents 5 Simple tips for Starting the Personal Development Journey posted at The Skool of Life.

Warren presents Strengths and Weaknesses posted at GenerallyThinking.com, saying, “People have weaknesses. I have weaknesses, you have weaknesses, even James Bond had one weakness (women). Here’s what to do about it.”

Lucky Balaraman presents When I Called God with a Complaint posted at Calm and Cool.

ChristianPF presents Purpose …read more

Every Sunday I post a set of articles that people send me to help us with our positive thinking in the week ahead. To overcome grief we need to work hard on our thinking. we need to work hard to rethink our goals and how we will find happiness…hope these articles help
Anna presents The Effect of the Fear of Loss posted at The Engaging Brand
Aparna presents Secrets of success posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming, saying, “These are a few rules that most successful people follow. It may not be a complete list in itself, but nevertheless some of the …read more

Today is another one of those days, my grieving day! So I thought I would write down what I was feeling as it may help others
I sit, I stare, I try and focus
Yet nothing seems to matter anymore
I look for inspiration in the photos around me
Yet nothing seems to matter anymore.
I dig deep inside and look for your love
Because nothing else matter but that love we shared
Yet there is nothing there, nothing to hold on to
Will it be better tomorrow, next week, next month?
Because I need something, anything to hold on to
I hear your voice telling me to fight, telling …read more

Gosh, I know that I am getting old as Sunday is here again and another Carnival of Positive Thinking. Here are articles which hopefully will help us all deal with our grief, our bereavement and start us on a path to happiness.
Anna presents The Importance of Being True to Yourself posted at The Engaging Brand
Warren presents What is Happiness? posted at GenerallyThinking.com, saying, “Is it possible to define something as subjective as happiness?”

Will Edwards presents How to Heighten Your Creativity posted at Making a Difference, saying, “Read essays, articles, or books on creativity and you will more than once …read more

Silly question really! Mind you sometimes I don’t want to be happy again as I feel the sense of loss so much. However most days I try and build just one step at a time towards that ulimate goal of happiness.
I was surfing the web today and came across a new site called Happier which has online exercise tools and tips. The goal of the site says it is to
“The happier.com team is working hard to help you “go beyond the books” and provide you with research-backed tips and tools that are proven to help increase positive emotions, boost overall …read more