I was sat on the bus with a wise old lady today…we talked and she gave me some sage advice that I think is so relevant to all widows. She said
“The trouble with the world is that people are looking for happiness, as though it a tangible object that you will stumble across one day. With age I have found that happiness cannot be found, it starts weaving into your life like an unknown stranger when you stop looking for it. Happiness isn’t some…thing, happiness is a way of looking at the world. Happiness comes to people who see the …read more

Leslie one of our regular commenters left a wonderfu story of how her family gave her a quote that has really helped her cope with her grief and I thought I would share it with you all
“Heal the Past, Live the Present, Dream the Future”
Don’t you think this says it all for widows and widowers ? I love the idea of healing, healing does not mean you forget it means that you cope with the pain and learn to move forward. Thanks Leslie for such a wonderful thought.

Well done, I am proud of you. Together we have made it through another week – hopefully gaining strength to cope with our grief and loss to our lives. Each Sunday I post a list of articles sent to me to help us turn that depression into positive growth – here are this weeks
Anna presents When I Ask You To Listen To Me posted at The Engaging Brand

Ari Koinuma presents How to Climb Up the Ladder of Healing and Growth posted at Ari Koinuma, saying, “In any journey, it’s nice to have a map. Healing and growth is no …read more

When someone loses someone close to them, it can be so difficult to know what to say. I came across an article at Helping Hands that I thought was worth sharing with you , here is a snippet for you
“Some other unhelpful comments after a death may be:
– “He is in a better place.” (Many feel their best place was with them.)
– “He lived a long life.” (It may not be long enough for someone we love?)
– “Be strong.” (That sounds like ‘Don’t cry, or don’t express feelings.’)
– “You should be over it by now.” (There is no timeline for …read more

Do you know sometimes I find it difficult to face the week ahead, other times I am feeling motivated….that is why each Sunday I post a series of articles to help us with our positive thinking. Here are this weeks, enjoy and find one thing that you will do this week that will help your motivation

Anna Farmery presents Does Your Mind Grow as Fast As Your Waistline? posted at The Engaging Brand.

GP presents On a Wing and a Prayer posted at Innstyle Montana- Come on Inn, saying, “We’ve all heard the common saying horses fly without wings. To me, I …read more

We all find our own way of coping with grief, someone of us become insular, some of us start doing things that we would not have dreamed of before. I was reading today about Libby Southwell who started on a journey of self exploration and has written a book about it called Monsoon Rains and Icicle Drops  
The book “Monsoon Rains is a story of one woman’s search for happiness, healing and recovery in the face of heartbreak. The book is a keeper, not just for its beautifully packaged pages (featuring floral Mongolian motifs and artistic scrawls) but the message …read more

When change happens in your life, when you are faced with grief, faced with depression, faced with loneliness…remember this line from the book, “The Psychology of Romantic Love,” Nathaniel Brandon wrote, “The first affair we must consummate successfully is the love affair with ourselves. Only then are we ready for other love relationships.”
The author Nathaniel Brandon was right – we need to be able to love ourselves, we need to be able to accept our flaws and enjoy our strengths. We can often feel alone, worthless but we are not either of those two things..we have value to bring to …read more

I am delighted with all your e-mails on how much the Sunday night positive thinking carnival helps you all. The range of topics and the great blogs that submit articles has been overwhelming. In fact many e-mails are from people who have not lost their spouse but have had another huge change in their life like Jack who has recently lost his job.
It was part of my New Year resolution to help others, and a big thank you for the feedback

Welcome to the January 21, 2007 edition of positive thinking.
Mary Deyo presents Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life posted at Dr. Deyo Wants You To Be Happy.
Heather writes Positive Thinking posted at Middle Age Shed
Ellesse presents Now You Can Write SMART Goals That Work! posted at Goal Setting College.
Anna presents Would you let your money lost interest? posted at The Engaging Brand
Fred fullerberry presents Who to Compare Yourself With posted at FredFullerberry.com, saying, “This a simple lesson I garnered from mom. The meat of it is a powerful tool for personal change.”
Chris presents How to be Cooler | How to …read more

Here is your weekly listing of the best posts on how to turn your life around. Welcome to the January 14, 2007 edition of positive thinking.
Ananga Sivyer presents Are you Living by Default? Or by Design? posted at Answers from Ayurveda.
burningchrome presents A Primer on Classy Behavior « SmartCoolRich posted at SmartCoolRich – Consolidated Privileged Information.
Alan presents Made to Be Great » Blog Archive » Responsibility – Take control of your Life – Keys to Unlock your Inner Potential posted at Made to Be Great.
Heather presents Exercise can be fun at Middle Age Shed
Alan presents Motivation posted at Made to …read more