“The trouble with the world is that people are looking for happiness, as though it a tangible object that you will stumble across one day. With age I have found that happiness cannot be found, it starts weaving into your life like an unknown stranger when you stop looking for it. Happiness isn’t some…thing, happiness is a way of looking at the world. Happiness comes to people who see the world in all its glory, happiness comes when you enjoy what you have rather than what you haven’t got at the moment. The secret my dear is not looking for happiness but embracing what is right in front of you”

Wow, that had such a profound impact on me. Why? Because happiness was meeting her, happiness was that moment of sharing, that moment of connection. Happiness is there when we just take the time to recognise it.

Grief can blind you so much to the world around you, grief can create blinkers so you only see pain.Healing maybe arrives when you remove the blinkers and don’t fear the light because in the light is salvation from the pain ?

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“Heal the Past, Live the Present, Dream the Future”

Don’t you think this says it all for widows and widowers ? I love the idea of healing, healing does not mean you forget it means that you cope with the pain and learn to move forward. Thanks Leslie for such a wonderful thought.

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Anna presents When I Ask You To Listen To Me posted at The Engaging Brand

Ari Koinuma presents How to Climb Up the Ladder of Healing and Growth posted at Ari Koinuma, saying, “In any journey, it’s nice to have a map. Healing and growth is no exception. In this essay I employ a system of classifying your emotions, to help you see where you are in your journey and what’s next in your evolution.”

Chris Edgar presents The Essential Breath posted at Purpose Power Coaching, saying, “When we breathe shallowly, as many of us do, and our bodies are hungry for oxygen, it’s no wonder we suffer from a nagging sense of incompleteness, a constant feeling that we need something more to make us whole. But when we completely allow our natural breathing process to operate, a feeling of peace and wholeness comes over us, and the sense that something is missing disappears.”

axel presents Emotional Healing posted at axel g.

Michael Miles presents The wisdom of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross posted at Effortless Abundance.

Byteful Project presents It Takes A Long Time to Become Fully You posted at Byteful Blog, saying, “If you feel as if you’re in depression, I highly recommend StevePavlina.com, specifically “Dealing With Tragedy and Loss.” Also, the article I’m submitting is about how a musician’s words strike a deep chord of truth: it is indeed possible to fully become the highest expression of who you are — the best person you can be on this planet, if you only have enough desire and commit to that path, but it takes time and it’s important to be patient with yourself. A downloadable poster of the quote is included.”

Shaun Connell presents Life Purpose 101 posted at Personal Development, saying, “Why do you even wake up in the morning? It’s the most important question of your life. Learn how to answer the question and quench your values.”

Donald Latumahina presents 7 Essential Tips for Developing Skills posted at Life Optimizer.

Alvaro Fernandez presents Wellness Coaching for Brain Health and Fitness posted at SharpBrains: Your Window into the Brain Fitness Revolution, saying, “Who will be the “personal brain trainers” of the future?”

Joshua Houghton presents Why Taking Action, Makes it Happen posted at Hypnosis Information & Articles Blog by Joshua Houghton – Hypnosis Information, Articles, Training, Thoughts and More.

Alex Blackwell presents The Price of Fueling Our Lives: 15 Abundantly Free Ideas posted at The BridgeMaker.

GP presents Subtle Seasons posted at Manely Montana, saying, “Reflections on the changing seasons.”

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“Some other unhelpful comments after a death may be:

– “He is in a better place.” (Many feel their best place was with them.)
– “He lived a long life.” (It may not be long enough for someone we love?)
– “Be strong.” (That sounds like ‘Don’t cry, or don’t express feelings.’)
– “You should be over it by now.” (There is no timeline for grief.)

Some helpful responses may be:

– “I can’t imagine how hard this may be for you.”
– “I am so sorry about your loss.”
– “I’m here, and I can listen. Take all the time you need.”
– “Thank you for sharing your feelings.”
– “I don’t know what to say, but I want you to know I care.”

Sometimes the best thing to do is to just show up and be present. Many grievers talk about the few who knew how to be compassionate companions and simply sat patiently and quietly beside them, allowing them to experience all of their feelings and thoughts. We live in a ‘doing’ society, yet often it is in the being that we can be of the most service to others. A healing presence is one of the most meaningful gifts we can give someone in grief.”  

Although we as widows or widowers are often the recipients….we also know people who suffer loss too and I found this article hugely helpful in knowing what to say to someone who is going through a bereavement.

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Anna Farmery presents Does Your Mind Grow as Fast As Your Waistline? posted at The Engaging Brand.

GP presents On a Wing and a Prayer posted at Innstyle Montana- Come on Inn, saying, “We’ve all heard the common saying horses fly without wings. To me, I think horses do fly without wings, it’s just that no one has seen them do it. I believe that to truly recognize their specialties, we need to give them full dedication, love and trust, and only the ones who can truly believe it can truly feel it.”

Terry Dean presents Why Believing in Yourself Will Change Your Life posted at Integrity Business Blog by Terry Dean.

Kavit Haria presents How to cut the fat and feel good posted at Wellness Junction by Kavit Haria.

Kavit Haria presents How to make your smile more attractive posted at Wellness Junction by Kavit Haria.

Rich Vosler presents Lessons From The Geese posted at Sales Training Tips.

Sue McDaniel presents FEELINGS ARE A PART OF MY LIFE | posted at I.M. Heart Blog.

Alex Landis presents Dealing With The Negative People In Your Life posted at AlexLandis.com, saying, “Alex discusses how to deal with the negative people in your life by understanding where their pessimism comes from and by providing tips to handle that negativity.”

Joel Chue presents Mind Power: Be Grateful to Your Problems! posted at Mind Power: Unlock The Subconscious Mind Power Secrets.

Patricia Twitchell presents Comfort Comes from Unexpected Places posted at Just Bears and Stuff, saying, “So often people take the things they treasure the most for granted. Life has a way of offering us the opportunity to evaluate and review those things in our life that are important. Many times this occurs through a tragedy. Yet, many tragedies turn into amazing blessings, which help us to clearly understand our path in life.

Learn how one woman turned the tragedy of her father’s heart attack into the blessing of having the courage to live her dream. A dream that has blessed so many others who have come to know her as The Teddy Bear Lady of Myrtle Creek.”

Ralph Jean-Paul presents Bounce Back After Failure posted at Potential 2 Success, saying, “Some of the most successful people in the world credit their success to a failure they’ve experienced. Bounce back from your failure and you might become one of them. Learn about the different types of failures and how to recover from them successfully.”

James D. Brausch presents The Anatomy of Hurdles posted at Internet Business Blog.

Fruitpunch presents Life is too short posted at Fruit Punch Diary.

Lorraine Cohen presents Allowing Your Heart and Spirit to Guide You posted at Powerfull Living, saying, “Combining instinct, intuition, and skills with strategy produces amazing results called FLOW!”

Carole G. McKay presents Bye Bye Apathy posted at McKay Today, saying, “It’s a great day in America. All you have to do is connect the dots.”

Carol Bentley presents Getting your thoughts on paper posted at Carol Bentley.

James D. Brausch presents Beliefs posted at Internet Business Blog.

The Art of Personal Productivity presents Make Room, Then Fill It posted at The Bubble Planner.

Joysoriano.com presents If there is abundance around, why can?t we receive it? posted at itakeoffthemask.com.

James DeLelys presents healingthroughwords.com » PARABLES posted at Author James DeLelys, saying, “Spiritual Growth.”

Warren Wong presents How To Deal With Worrying posted at Personal Development for INTJs, saying, “Three steps to help you stop worrying in no time!”

Garrett Davis presents How To Be A Positive Thinker posted at Guidance For The Motivated, saying, “Learn how to optimize your thoughts so that you may optimize your happiness.”

Tupelo Kenyon presents Make a Decision Easier posted at Tupelo Kenyon, saying, “Decisions needn’t be a chore. In fact, it’s a profound privilege to be able to make decisions for yourself. Consider the alternative. Would you rather have someone else make your decisions for you? The ability to make your own decisions is a good definition of freedom. Here are some tips on how to make better decisions easier.”

Alex Blackwell presents 45 Tips for a Happier, Simpler and More Productive Life posted at The Next 45 Years.

Fruitpunch presents Wake up and smell the roses posted at Fruit Punch Diary.

Aaron Brandon presents Overcoming Negativity posted at Aaron Brandon.

David B. Bohl presents Letting Go of Negative Thinking and Fear posted at Slow Down Fast Today!, saying, “I know a few people for whom everything has to be a problem. I’m convinced that the reason they must be negative is that they’re paralyzed by fear.”

Lexi Sundell presents Incubation for Creative Expansion posted at Energies of Creation, saying, “A time of quiet incubation can blossom into creative inspiration if the conscious thinking mind is prevented from interfering with the process.”

Mary Emma Allen presents If Your Quilt Could Tell a Story posted at Quilting and Patchwork, saying, “We often have quilts and other family memorabilia that tell stories about the maker or former owner…stories that inspire and bring us comfort and uplift us for the day.”

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The book “Monsoon Rains is a story of one woman’s search for happiness, healing and recovery in the face of heartbreak. The book is a keeper, not just for its beautifully packaged pages (featuring floral Mongolian motifs and artistic scrawls) but the message of strength it delivers. In addition, part proceeds go to AdoptSrilanka, the charity Southwell was instrumental in setting up.”

If you were going to write your personal journey what would it be called ? I think mine might be called To Hell and Back!

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The author Nathaniel Brandon was right – we need to be able to love ourselves, we need to be able to accept our flaws and enjoy our strengths. We can often feel alone, worthless but we are not either of those two things..we have value to bring to the world and our “humanness” is something that we should enjoy not fear.

In accepting ourselves, we make ourselves more “attractive” to other people. To find happiness again, we need to ensure that we enjoy hanging out with ourselves(!), we need to be comfortable to ensure other people are comfortable in our presence….other people’s company may not seem important at the moment, but that friendship will help you heal the pain and make you smile again.

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It was part of my New Year resolution to help others, and a big thank you for the feedback

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Mary Deyo presents Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life posted at Dr. Deyo Wants You To Be Happy.

Heather writes Positive Thinking posted at Middle Age Shed

Ellesse presents Now You Can Write SMART Goals That Work! posted at Goal Setting College.

Anna presents Would you let your money lost interest? posted at The Engaging Brand

Fred fullerberry presents Who to Compare Yourself With posted at FredFullerberry.com, saying, “This a simple lesson I garnered from mom. The meat of it is a powerful tool for personal change.”

Chris presents How to be Cooler | How to get a Social Life posted at How to be Cooler.

John Hill presents Trust Your Feelings posted at Universe Of Success.

Mabelandharry presents What is your success posted at MabelandHarry

almomento presents The Hidden Power of Mastermind posted at BurstCreativity.

Maria Yu presents Post Memorial for Our Beloved posted at Life.

Mr Biggs presents Fear !! posted at One Powerful Word – THOUGHT, saying, “Success and positive thinking”

Talia Mana presents Anti-Depressants – Is the cure worse than the illness? (Part 1 of 2) posted at Emotional Well-Being,

Dr. Jane Chin presents What Moves Us posted at Jane Chin PhD,

Mark McManus presents How To Induce Faith – The Prerequisite To Achieving Your Goals posted at Build Your Life To Order ™,

Craig Harper presents Motivational Speaker – Craig Harper posted at Renovate your life with Craig,

Donald Latumahina presents 5 Reasons Why Doing What You Love Can Optimize Your Life posted at Life Optimizer.

Raymond David Salas presents 10 Ways to Be Happier Now posted at ZenChill.com – Power Tools for Mind, Body, and Soul.

Kavit Haria presents How To Deal With Choice Overload posted at Kavit’s Letters, Thoughts and Musings.

Linda Freedman presents Saying Goodbye posted at Everyone needs therapy? Lessons from a family therapist,

Charles H. Green presents I’m OK, You’re an Idiot posted at Trust Matters,

Neal Cohen presents Train Your Brain: Get a Head Coach posted at SharpBrains,

Caroline Latham presents Why are so many brain fitness programs appearing now? posted at SharpBrains,

Alan presents Your True Inner Potential posted at Made to Be Great.

Ellesse presents Drawing Inspirations from Your Miserable Failures posted at Goal Setting College.

Think Happy Thoughts Happiness Blog presents Invincible Happiness posted at Miguel Trujillo,

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Ananga Sivyer presents Are you Living by Default? Or by Design? posted at Answers from Ayurveda.

burningchrome presents A Primer on Classy Behavior « SmartCoolRich posted at SmartCoolRich – Consolidated Privileged Information.

Alan presents Made to Be Great » Blog Archive » Responsibility – Take control of your Life – Keys to Unlock your Inner Potential posted at Made to Be Great.

Heather presents Exercise can be fun at Middle Age Shed

Alan presents Motivation posted at Made to Be Great.

Laura Young presents So You Really Want to Be Happy? posted at Dragon Slayer, saying, “More research from the field of positive psychology to help point the way back to happiness.”

MabelandHarry presents What we mean by listening posted at MabelandHarry

presents Managing the Ups and Downs of Self Growth posted at OptmistLab.com,

Mark McManus presents The Law Of Correspondence posted at Build Your Life To Order ™, saying, “Similar to the Law of attraction, this powerful law should be understood and lived by anyone wanting positive change“

Alan presents The Law of Correspondence – 2nd Universal Law posted at Made to Be Great.

Jane Chin presents Your Crucial Key To Success posted at On Careers and Life, saying, “If you had to identify one crucial key to your success, what would it be?”

John Wesley presents Suck it Up; Or, Making the Best of a Situation posted at Pick the Brain - Wit and Wisdom for Your Inspiration, saying, “Why you should stop complaining and make the best of the situation.”

Karen Lynch presents Optimism-It’s more Fun! posted at LivethePower.

Craig Harper presents “What would you be if you weren’t you?”posted at Renovate your life with Craig, saying, “We get to choose to be incredible, amazing, inspirational and exceptional human beings DESPITE our life experiences.

Darren presents Self sabotage posted at Darren Hayhurst.com, saying, “Self sabotage, how to see it, how to understand it and how to stop it.”

Maria Yu presents Magic Folding for Manifestation posted at Life.

Maria Yu presents The Still Point, Great Silence, and Original Sound posted at Life.

Alan presents Self Image – Is being Overweight a hindrance to attaining wealth? posted at Made to Be Great.

almomento presents 6 Secrets of Personal Goal Setting posted at BurstCreativity.

Charles H. Green presents A Better New Year’s Resolution posted at Trust Matters, saying, “What if you approached New Year’s Resolutions in a way to set yourself up for success?”

Alan presents Forget the Past – Key to Change posted at Made to Be Great.

Karen Shanley presents Painting the Air posted at Karen Shanley.

Mark McManus presents 7 Day Mental Diet – Volunteers Required posted at Build Your Life To Order ™,

Debra Moorhead presents Achieve Success by Surrounding Yourself with a Positive Environment posted at Debra Moorhead.com.

Scott Lee presents Experiencing the Power of Positive Thinking posted at Dirty Mechanism.

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of positive thinking using our carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

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