In grief we can isolate ourselves, in grief we can shut the world out, in grief as widows and widowers we can believe that we never want to fall in love again….
When I was coughing away, by myself this weekend, feeling sorry for myself that there was no one in the house just to look after me….(how old am I!) I started to think about connection. When we enter the world we are physically connected with our mothers…we depended on their nourishment in the womb, we depend on their milk, their support and security throughout our childhood.
When you think about …read more

As normal here are articles which are all based on helping us cope with our grief and for some our depression. I hope these articles help with your positive thinking

Vellervine presents Taking Risks Bravely posted at How to Start Finding My Passion in Life, saying, “Taking risks bravely | Finding passion | Motivation techniques”
Anna presents 5 Ways to Encourage Positivity posted at The Engaging Brand

Aparna presents Who is a free person? posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming, saying, “The people, who risk nothing, do nothing, have nothing; They may avoid suffering and sorrow, but they cannot learn, feel, change, grow, …read more

A broken heart hurts as we all know, but a study by Dr Mark Porter shows that if we are not careful then grief can affect our health. In a survey, he found
“When compared with a controlled group of people who hadn’t lost anyone close to them, the bereaved showed significant increases in blood pressure, pulse rate and changes to their immune and clotting systems, which made their blood stickier and a heart attack more likely. The changes were most marked during the first six months after bereavement and have been pounced on by the …read more

Welcome to the carnival of positive thinking which I publish every Sunday to help widows and widowers face their grief, their depression and start moving forward with their lives without ever forgetting our loved ones. Hope these articles will help you x
Anna presents If you could live your live over…posted at The Engaging Brand
Karen S Murphy presents The Lesson of Perfection posted at Polaris Rising, saying, “I have a confession to make: I’m not perfect. For that matter, neither are you. I’m totally okay with your non-perfection, and in fact I see perfection in your non-perfection—the very humanness that makes …read more

When I was in hospital recently, I had a lot of blood tests. After the 3rd lot of blood was taken, a big bruise started to form. It made me think that although we learn to live with the pain of bereavement, the pain of grief and even loneliness…do we develop bereavement bruises that may be invisible to us……but others can see.When I think about me, I suspect I have a few bruises on show that I believe others can seeBeing very careful not to open my heart, so I can’t be hurt….for nowReminisicing much more than I used to…Up …read more

No news yet on the patient but I am doing well – thank you for all your well wishes.I have been reading loads of newspapers and magazines whilst lying on this hospital bed. I keep seeing the word crisis sprawled across every page. Now don’t get me wrong I understand that a global finanacial meltdown would be HUGE….but somehow I feel uncomfortable with the word crisis.Maybe I just associate a crisis with a more personal than global problem? Is that what death does, change your perspective on the world and make you see things differently? I think it has for …read more

The last couple of weeks have been hard, very hard. My health has not been great and when that happens, depression seems to descend over me. It just shows how important our health is, in the grief recovery process.
The last couple of days I have forced myself to get out into the sunshine. I have walked for   about 5 miles each day. Although I live on the edge of a city, I am fortunate to live near a canal and also on the edge of some wonderful countryside.
During those walks I have put my iPod on, played my favourite …read more

Over at Seattle PI I read an insight into what mourning is and what mourning isn’t – called Test Your Knowledge of Mourning.
I would like to draw attention to their comment about health, which is so important
While your own health may be your last concern while you are mourning a loved one, you should try to keep your physical well-being in mind by making sure you’re eating, getting some exercise and seeing a doctor if and when you need to.

Well done on coping with another week of grief….each week that goes by, shows that we have real inner strength to cope. We have to recognise our progress, well done. Here are some articles that will help with our depression, coping with our bereavement and help us to develop our positive thinking

Paul Piotrowski presents 14 Most Common Fears in Life and What To Do About Them posted at Inspired Money Maker.

Will presents 7 Steps to a Happier Life » Your Finish Rich Plan posted at Your Finish Rich Plan, saying, “A lot of people live their lives feeling crappy about …read more

I have had a bad week and no matter how hard I try I don’t seem to be able to pick myself up. For the first time , I feel isolated as I just don’t feel that I have anyone to talk to….. one friend is away and the other who I may talk to has a few problems of her own. I was looking round the web and came across this depression test at Psychology  Today
At the end of the test it gave me 1o ways to lift the gloom that I thought I would share with you…
10 ways …read more