When I was coughing away, by myself this weekend, feeling sorry for myself that there was no one in the house just to look after me….(how old am I!) I started to think about connection. When we enter the world we are physically connected with our mothers…we depended on their nourishment in the womb, we depend on their milk, their support and security throughout our childhood.

When you think about it we are hard wired to connect, if we block that desire to connect then are we in the short term blocking the pain but in the long term harming our emotional health?

If we go without water we die…

If we go without food we die

If we go without love….does our soul die?

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Vellervine presents Taking Risks Bravely posted at How to Start Finding My Passion in Life, saying, “Taking risks bravely | Finding passion | Motivation techniques”

Anna presents 5 Ways to Encourage Positivity posted at The Engaging Brand

Aparna presents Who is a free person? posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming, saying, “The people, who risk nothing, do nothing, have nothing; They may avoid suffering and sorrow, but they cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love or live; Chained by their attitudes they are slaves; they have given away their freedom; ONLY THE MAN WHO RISKS IS A FREE MAN”

Jennifer Reed presents Time is of the Essence! | Reed What Matters posted at Reed What Matters, saying, “Day in and day out, we handle our day as if it’s just another day. Grabbing our to-do list, finishing our goals for the day, not getting enough sleep, leaving our spouse to fall asleep on their own, and at times forgetting to tuck our children in for bed, forgetting time is of the essence.”

Wally Bock presents God is in the details posted at Momentor.

Katie Sorene presents How to Beat the Post-Vacation Blues posted at Travel Blog – Tripbase.

Jon Beebe presents Quick-Start Guide to Overcoming Fear and Developing Courage posted at DevelopMinds.com Blog, saying, “How to overcome fear and develop courage.”

Thailand Breeze presents Thai Culture And Relationships (Part 1) posted at Tip.

Joe E presents Tips for Coping with a Chronic Condition posted at Promote Health, saying, “It can be hard dealing with the news of finding out that you or someone you love has just been diagnosed with a chronic condition. Here are some tips that will help you cope with this troubling situation and get you mind thinking positive again.”

Shannon Wills presents 100 iPhone Apps to Seriously Boost Your Brainpower posted at Online Bible Colleges.

Steven Lohrenz presents Culling the Herd posted at Steven Lohrenz.

Kwame O. presents Finding Your Life Purpose in Three Easy Steps posted at Life Purpose And Spirituality.

kb presents Overcoming Depression posted at Words of Wisdom for Inner Peace by KB, saying, “Thank you ”

Tom Pham presents As I Look Out The Window… – Thoughts Of A Whim posted at Thoughts Of A Whim.

Surbhi Bhatia presents Color Therapy posted at The Viewspaper » The Viewspaper.

Surbhi Bhatia presents Influence of Influence posted at The Viewspaper » The Viewspaper.

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“When compared with a controlled group of people who hadn’t lost anyone close to them, the bereaved showed significant increases in blood pressure, pulse rate and changes to their immune and clotting systems, which made their blood stickier and a heart attack more likely. The changes were most marked during the first six months after bereavement and have been pounced on by the media as the first scientific explanation of why surviving partners often die so soon after their loved ones.”

Reading this made me realise the importance of looking after ourselves…we may not feel like living but..

We will….one day

And

We all understand the pain of loss and if we don’t look after ourselves then we will pass that pain on to the people around us.

So starting today I am changing my diet to a much healthier mix of foods…

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Anna presents If you could live your live over…posted at The Engaging Brand

Karen S Murphy presents The Lesson of Perfection posted at Polaris Rising, saying, “I have a confession to make: I’m not perfect. For that matter, neither are you. I’m totally okay with your non-perfection, and in fact I see perfection in your non-perfection—the very humanness that makes you the unique and loving person that is YOU. But in me it’s another matter. I “should” be perfect….NOT!”

Andy presents Giving Back to Others posted at Personal Hack, saying, “Often we go through life in a very selfish state where all we want to do is take, take, take. Kind of like that game “the hungry hippos”. I had this thought the other day and questioned myself “would making more money, taking care of my health, or pursuing any other goal I had be worth while if I lived by myself on an island away from any other human being?””

Will Edwards presents Our Abilities posted at Life Lessons, saying, “Well, it’s officially over – Barak Obama is now the president of the United Sates. I don’t think I’ve ever followed a political event as closely as this one. I certainly wish Mr. Obama all the best and hope that he is able to accomplish all that he has said he would like to.”

Aparna presents Beauty and emotions – kinship between them posted at Beauty and Personality Grooming, saying, “Beauty isn’t skin-deep. This saying is true as far as our health and looks are concerned. Emotions rule our life and have a powerful effect on our health. There are two types of emotions viz. positive and negative. Positive emotions enhance the beauty of the face, whereas pessimistic ones lessen it. Some facts about positive emotions:”

Burak Bilgin presents Write Your Personal History posted at Distiller’s Corner, saying, “As humans, we forget things, and events repeat themselves. Remembering and drawing conclusions from your history will help you being more prepared for your future. It will make your life more meaningful and valuable.”

GP presents Let Not Your Heart be Troubled « Manely Montana posted at Manely Montana, saying, “Let not your heart be troubled”

Broderick Allen presents Life is Short? posted at Broderick Allen – Personal Growth and Enjoying Life’s Journey.

Silicon Valley Blogger presents Things More Valuable Than Riches posted at The Digerati Life, saying, “I wrote this piece on Thanksgiving a couple of years ago, but I thought the message is still fresh and significant. I would like to share this with you and your readers. Thank you!”

Ralph Jean-Paul presents How To Make Important Decisions Quickly posted at Potential 2 Success, saying, “Quick decision making is critical in just about every aspect of life. Learn why it is sometimes difficult to make decisions and how to improve your decision making skills.”

Chris Edgar presents 4 Lessons Babies Can Teach Us About Productivity posted at Purpose Power Coaching, saying, “When we see a baby exploring or playing, our attention is usually on how adorable they are. What we don’t often notice is how much we can learn from watching babies’ behavior, particularly when it comes to getting work done. I think babies are actually some of the most helpful “productivity gurus” out there, and I’ll offer four valuable lessons I’ve picked up from watching them.”

Simona Rich presents The Law of Non-resistance posted at Personal Development Blog, saying, “The law of non-resistance teaches that whenever you resist some situation, you are giving more power to it.”

Chase Stowers presents Thinking Win-Win posted at Super Duper Blog-O-Rama!.

Erin Pavlina presents Health and Wellness: My Primary Personal Goal This Year posted at Erin Pavlina’s Blog, saying, “Health, fitness, and wellness is my primary personal goal this year, which means that at the end of this year I’d rather have made huge gains in this area than any other personal area of my life. Do you have a primary personal goal for the year?”

axel presents Rediscover The Beauty Of Life posted at axel g.

Andy presents My Story posted at Personal Hack, saying, “I was born in Egypt and I moved to America when I was 12. Moving here was probably the toughest thing I’ve ever done, it left me depressed for a year or two. I didn’t know the language well, I didn’t have friends, and worst of all there were no ESL (English as a Second Language) classes in my small high school…”

The Smarter Wallet presents Stop Procrastination By Knowing How Much It Can Cost You posted at The Smarter Wallet, saying, “Thank you!”

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For me the loss of your partner, the loss of your own health ……that is what really matters in this world. I have lost a job in the past and that hurt, I didn’t know where my next penny was coming from…but you know I could work hard to overcome

 that….for me health and death are so often outside of your control and that is why I find them the real crisis in this world. 

Has your perspective changed? 

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The last couple of days I have forced myself to get out into the sunshine. I have walked for   about 5 miles each day. Although I live on the edge of a city, I am fortunate to live near a canal and also on the edge of some wonderful countryside.

During those walks I have put my iPod on, played my favourite music and watched the natural world around me. I have seen the lambs bounding across the fields with joy, and smiled.

Walking has done 3 things

1. It has made me get out of the house, which is full of memories and see that life goes on.
2. It has got my heart pumping and made me feel healthier and more alive.
3. It has relaxed me and helped me put life into perspective.

Sometimes life can be so frantic we  just need some space to relax, think and  reenergise ourselves. I now know that a walk a day keeps the depression at bay…. if you are feeling down, try walking in the fresh air and feeling that heart beat inside of you.

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I would like to draw attention to their comment about health, which is so important

While your own health may be your last concern while you are mourning a loved one, you should try to keep your physical well-being in mind by making sure you’re eating, getting some exercise and seeing a doctor if and when you need to.

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Paul Piotrowski presents 14 Most Common Fears in Life and What To Do About Them posted at Inspired Money Maker.

Will presents 7 Steps to a Happier Life » Your Finish Rich Plan posted at Your Finish Rich Plan, saying, “A lot of people live their lives feeling crappy about everything in their lives: who they are NOT, where they are NOT and what they HAVEN’T got. That’s no way to live. Life is too short not to take advantage of what it has to offer.”

James DeLelys presents WORDS » Articles posted at WORDS, saying, “Who is Love?”

Gary Evans presents Trusting Your Inner Guidance posted at Good To Feel Good.

Anna presents A Thin Line Between Madness and Creativity posted at The Engaging Brand 

Emma presents Writings of a Wheelchair Princessposted at The Life and Times of Emma.

Emma presents Family posted at The Life and Times of Emma.

Arin Vahanian presents How to Get Rid of Excuses NOW and Start Living the Kind of Life You’ve Always Wanted posted at Super State.

Jessica Jones presents My Struggle With Living Purposefully posted at Practical Nourishment, saying, “On the ups and downs of living with purpose.”

Joshua Seth presents Your Mind Body Connection posted at Joshua Seth Blog.

Jesse Roulette presents What is Motivation? posted at Jesse Hooper – One at a time.

Scott.Goolsby presents Stepping Toward Compassion posted at Unapologetic Genius, saying, “Developing compassion.”

Ellen Landauer presents Natural Alternative Health CoachingHealth Freedom Coaching: addiction recovery posted at Health Freedom Coaching, saying, “If you want to diminish depression and anxiety, the information in this article will help.While this article offers solid nutrition information that can help if you or someone you love is recovering from drug or alcohol dependence, there is a wealth of knowledge here for health-oriented people. In my research on substance abuse, I found a lot of parallels between alcohol and drug addiction and sugar addiction, depression and anxiety. The right nutrition can improve your mood.”

Steven Burrell presents Why do I Feel Bad? The Reason Why You Have Negative Emotions. posted at Self Mastery Group.

Chris Edgar presents You Are Not Your Memories posted at Purpose Power Coaching, saying, “Many of us have felt the sensation, when we wake up in the morning, of briefly having no memory of who we are. Usually, we react to this by grasping for memories, even if they’re painful, to get our sense of identity back. However, I suggest, simply allowing that memoryless state to be for a little while can help us realize that, in our essence, we are separate from our memories. This realization helps liberate us from the stress caused by memories of painful events.”

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At the end of the test it gave me 1o ways to lift the gloom that I thought I would share with you…

10 ways to be and stay happy

1. Make a list of things that make you happy. Focusing on what makes us happy has a way of, well… making us happy!
2. Keep things in perspective. Think back to other times that you felt this down – did they always warrant such a strong reaction? This is not to beat yourself up about the past, but to realize that you have and can again survive situations that you thought were too much too handle.
3. Imagine yourself smiling. Smiling sends an internal message that all is well. Go ahead — What have you got to lose, a bad mood?
4. Be here now! Take small steps. If, for example, your mood may brighten just by stepping outside routine, and reaching for a small spontaneous moment. Here’s a hint: Start small. Watch puppies, kittens and small children. Watch…and learn.
5. Release anger, envy & resentment! This are self-destructive. We hold them, intending to throw them at someone, but they never really leave us.
6. Forgive! Forgiveness is something we do as much for our own healing as for that of the other. It is NOT acceptance of abuse or permission for an action, but a release of an act’s affect on you.
7. Let go and laugh. When you feel negativity building, seek out the things that make you laugh – a funny movie, a joke, a favorite website, a goofy friend -or plan a “mood music get together” with friends: Score each other one point for thinking up true ‘Feel-Good’ songs. (e.g. “I Feel Good”–James Brown).
8. Write Thank You notes! Keep a journal of all the people and things you are thankful for. This is especially helpful on rough days. Why not take five minutes and contribute to someone else’s happiness? You will like yourself better for doing it which is, by the way, one of the true secrets to happiness!
9. Avoid depression triggers. If there are unhealthy people or places in your life, consider decreasing their role. You’ll find that the better you feel about yourself, the more naturally this will occur: If you treat yourself well, you won’t settle for anyone that doesn’t.
10. Shake that body! Exercise is a great way to avoid or alleviate depressive symptoms. The body and mind are strongly connected, and neglecting either will have negative consequences. You may want to join an aerobics class where you can meet new people or take up yoga or meditation.

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