“There is only me and I will turn 60 in July without my best friend (and younger spouse) there beside me. I don’t think I have a day where the tears do not well up. I am so alone and so lonely, too.”

Loneliness is awful, it is like a stream running through your body, swirling around and catching you off guard. I want to stress that this blog is home to all people suffering with grief….a home where we can all come and help each other. So often friends and family live away – as with me – and you don’t know where to turn….there is always a friend here for you…..who will understand.

Readers will know that I have ups and downs…..I hope the ups help to show you that there is hope, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I hope the downs show that all your feelings are natural, that you are not alone.

Two things that have helped me that may help Jessica

• It helps to have some sound in the house. I listen to podcasts, the radio, the TV anything to make it feel that there is someone else around in the house.
• It helps me to set some exercise goals…I take a walk each day or go to the gym. The reason is that it gives me a goal, it gives me a sense of achievement at the same time as helping my body become healthier.

Jessica – you are not alone.  We are here to support and  feel free to share your thoughts in  the comments. Sometimes just writing your thoughts down helps….you as well as others.

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Post from: Widows Quest

The last couple of days I have forced myself to get out into the sunshine. I have walked for   about 5 miles each day. Although I live on the edge of a city, I am fortunate to live near a canal and also on the edge of some wonderful countryside.

During those walks I have put my iPod on, played my favourite music and watched the natural world around me. I have seen the lambs bounding across the fields with joy, and smiled.

Walking has done 3 things

1. It has made me get out of the house, which is full of memories and see that life goes on.
2. It has got my heart pumping and made me feel healthier and more alive.
3. It has relaxed me and helped me put life into perspective.

Sometimes life can be so frantic we  just need some space to relax, think and  reenergise ourselves. I now know that a walk a day keeps the depression at bay…. if you are feeling down, try walking in the fresh air and feeling that heart beat inside of you.

Post from: Widows Quest