Widows Quest » hearts http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Thu, 24 Dec 2009 16:54:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 en hourly 1 Holding Grief Can Be Warm http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/holding-grief-can-be-warm/ http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/holding-grief-can-be-warm/#comments Mon, 20 Oct 2008 21:26:57 +0000 Anna Farmery http://www.widowsquest.com/holding-grief-can-be-warm/ Post from: Widows Quest

]]> When I look back at the grief, I sometimes wonder whether why we move on slowly is because grief can feel warm. Somehow holding on to that grief, or holding the pain close can be comforting? Is that just me or do other widows or widowers feel the same?

The memories you have through your grief can feel warm, can help you feel connected with your loved one. If you take that grief away then loneliness can take a grip in your mind. What is it about grief that is warm?

  • Maybe the memories?
  • Maybe the connection with your loved one?
  • Maybe the heartache or pain actually makes you feel alive? 
  • Maybe it is our last connection to them?  heartintherain.jpg

What we need to learn is that grief may feel warm in the short term, however if we leave that grief to reign over our emotions then our heart will not warm through and let love flow over that grief, bringing a natural warmth back to our lives. In the long term, grief will make us cold……it is love that will warm our hearts.

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]]> http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/holding-grief-can-be-warm/feed/ 3 The Widows Quest Grief Recipe for Coping http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-widows-quest-grief-recipe-for-coping/ http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-widows-quest-grief-recipe-for-coping/#comments Tue, 29 Jul 2008 19:29:31 +0000 Anna Farmery http://www.widowsquest.com/the-widows-quest-grief-recipe-for-coping/ Post from: Widows Quest

]]> I was wondering whether we could come up with a recipe for grief, for protecting that little old heart of ours from the pain of bereavement and losing the love of our lives? Here is my starter for 10, feel free to leave a comment on anything that may be missing

Our Grief Recipe

1 Hug per day

1 Box of Tissues to let the pain out

2 Pairs of Ears to listen without judgement

Several gasps of fresh air each day

1 Cushion to hold through the night

10 Photo albums to keep the memories alive

2 Smiles from people who care each day

1 Hope or wish – that one day we will learn to live again

I suggest that these are all mixed together thoroughly, baked in a nice warm friendship and then served whenever our hearts need them

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]]> http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/the-widows-quest-grief-recipe-for-coping/feed/ 16 Loving and losing is better than never loving at all http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/loving-and-losing-is-better-than-never-loving-at-all/ http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/loving-and-losing-is-better-than-never-loving-at-all/#comments Wed, 12 Mar 2008 15:09:22 +0000 Anna Farmery http://www.widowsquest.com/loving-and-losing-is-better-than-never-loving-at-all/ Post from: Widows Quest

]]> I met an old lady whilst travelling yesterday. She was 86 and said that her biggest hope is that she finds love…she had never fallen in love in her life. She had been very protected by her family, and then when she had left home all the “men were taken”

I told her my story and that I still miss him each day. She turned held my hand and said “Oh, I would never say that you have lost them.lovingcouple.jpg Loving is a special gift that not everyone enjoys….love is a gain, no matter if death breaks the relationship earlier than expected because your heart has fulfilled it’s destiny. You have gained, not lost“  

Wow, what a wonderful thought and I couldn’t wait to share with you all…we have gained because our hearts have fulfilled their destiny…

Funny, how put that way, I smile with that thought!

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