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The Wonder of Memories

Anna Farmery — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 19:10:55 +0000

Ever since I suffered my bereavement, I have had a mixed recollection of memories. Let me explain…

I can remember feelings, I can remember places, I can remember events and yet I cannot remember his face. The only memory that I have is that of him dying in the hospital, it is as though my mind has blocked out any other memories I have….I thought with time they would return and yet no….they remain elusive.

At first I hated it, I wanted to remember the smile, the face, they eyes….and now I wonder whether it is a good thing? The fact that I remember the experiences brings back great memories, the fact that I cannot remember his face means that I, in a way, don’t see him which would make me hurt more.

I sometimes wonder whether I am the only person who has this memory block ? Am I doing it subconciously to block out pain or the pain of grief? Or am I losing out on those wonderful pictures of the mind?

Would love your thoughts…

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Your Love, Your Rock

Anna Farmery — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 09:08:13 +0000

I said that I would share stories that I have learned whilst being in hospital. On the ward with me is a lovely older lady who lost her husband a couple of years ago. We were talking about grief and she said that being ill scared her. I asked why, and she said”Because my rock is no longer here to hold my hand and say that everything will be OK. The strange thing is that I was the rock in our relationship, the strong one…but my strength came through our love“She had tears in her eyes, as she described how they met and how he was taken from her. I asked if she had any advice for people reading Widows Quest and she said“Remember love does not come and go, remember true love is eternal”

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Sorry for No Widows Quest Posting

Anna Farmery — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 09:00:46 +0000

Oooh what a few days – I had to come into hospital on Sunday night – after posting the Positive Thinking Carnival (How ironic is that!) which is why I haven’t been blogging these last couple of days. I am still in the hospital awaiting more tests, but have managed to persuade a friend to smuggle in my computer to keep me company. You see I miss you all.You know we take health so for granted, maybe less so widows and widowers, but when you find yourself not knowing what is wrong and just wishing for a pain free hour then you realise how important your well being is…You also realise how alone you are, yes friends and family are here….but that special someone is not there holding your hand. I hope today I will find out more about what is happening but in the meantime I thought I would share some stories from people on the ward.

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