I was reading an article on the BBC website about research into survival rates of bereaved people. Here is a snippet
“Writing in the journal, the researchers led by Dr Carole Heart, said: “We have shown that bereavement does have an impact on mortality risk, in addition to that of individual risk factors – which had a fairly small influence – and that the effects are persistent.” Stewart Wilson, of the counselling charity Cruse Bereavement Care, said: “When a couple have been together a long time, the incidence of long-term survival is relatively low for the other partner.”Cathy Ross, of the …read more

When you suffer the loss, grief is powerful. The body seems to realise and puts you in a mindset that “gets you through” the bereavement and all the practical realities of the funeral and the months after. For me that numbness really rendered me useless, it was as though someone had taken out my batteries and my emotions. As you move through the challenge is to move from the “getting through” mentality to challenging yourself to see the possibilities. For many this is hard, but it is seeing the new possibilities that see that life flow back to your body. …read more

Tomorrow we celebrate our wonderful role in the world. In widowhood we can celebrate too….
We can celebrate our strength during times of grief
We can celebrate the love that we shared and created in this world
We can celebrate how we have helped those we have lost feel happiness
We can celebrate our role as mothers, keeping society alive
We can celebrate our resilience in adversity
It is sad that we cannot celebrate with the ones we love….however at Widows Quest we have each other!