Widows Quest » iris murdoch http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Sun, 20 Dec 2009 20:41:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 en hourly 1 Learning to Love Again http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/learning-to-love-again-2/ http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/learning-to-love-again-2/#comments Wed, 06 Aug 2008 08:52:38 +0000 Anna Farmery http://www.widowsquest.com/learning-to-love-again-2/ Post from: Widows Quest

]]> I think learning to love again, or learning to see that loving again is acceptable as a widow or widower after suffering a tragedy is the hardest thing. I remember a quote from Iris Murdoch who said

“We can only learn to love, by loving”

As widows or widowers we could change that to 

“We can only learn to love again, by loving again”

Grief is the end of one chapter of your life. It is not the end of loving. After all death has brought an end to the partnership but it has brought an end to t rosesfromtop.jpghe love we feel – that love is causing our grief. That shows that we can still love, that grief shows that our heart still ha s the capacity. As hard as it seems, one day our heart will open up to the risk of loving again….it was born to love.

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