Readers of this blog know how celebrity deaths amaze me…

Amaze me at how the outpouring of grief over someone we didn’t know
Amaze me at how the families cope when the worlds press is looking at them
Amaze me that despite the many wishes to rest in peace, the world seems to not want to let them rest in peace!

I came across a compelling article in Time Magazine about The Top Celebrity Grave Sites. It shows the graves of celebrities such as Bob Marley, Princess Diana, Elvis Presley, Marilyn Monroe etc
It tells stories around their deaths but one stood out for me …read more

Yesterday was the anniversary of Princess Diana’a passing from this world. It will always be a day which affects me, ironically it is my sisters birthday as well. It always amazes me that someone you have never me, can have such a profound impact on your life but Diana did that for me. I was a huge fan…
Not in the sense that I could see she was not perfect but because she wasn’t perfect! So many times on television you see the “perfect” celebrity who makes you feel inadequate somehow…she was imperfect and that is why I related to her.
I …read more

Yesterday I posted about how to start moving forward through grief by giving ourselves some targets. It was great to see that is helped Leslie  – a major contributor to this community, but I thought I would now add how I make sure that the words don’t stay on a piece of paper – how I “try” and put them into action each day.

I put my goals on post it notes and spread them around the house -  the bathroom mirror, the fridge door etc. This means that the dreams are constantly in my eye line and that they help …read more

I was inspired to write this post after seeing some wonderful comments from Maggie and Leslie in response to the post Eternal Love. Leslie wrote
“I think what I am doing lately is thinking too far in the future and all I can see is a life of loneliness. I should be concentrating on each day as it comes and I have had some really good ones lately.”
Grief is strange, we are dealing with the past…today…and trying to find a way of enjoying the future. So how do we do that? This is what helps me

I have written down a sentence which …read more

When faced with death it makes you think long and hard about life. What is life about? This is a question that continuously makes me think long and hard.
The more that I think, the more I believe that life is not about making a living, it is greater than that….it is about creating a lifelong legacy. Of course we need money to feed some basic needs, but we need love more….we need to live more….And when you think about it, we may have lost our love…but that is the person NOT the feeling.
When you meet people who are infectious in …read more

I was thinking today about our life together and what legacy he has left me in my grief. Here are my Top 10 legacy statements from my lost love – I would love to hear yours

 See the good in people – life is a treasure hunt for goodness.
Love is the ultimate gift
Do one thing each day that helps the world
Never go to sleep without healing the rift
Laughing is the best remedy for all life’s problems
Love like tomorrow will never come
To be interesting, be interested in others
A hug a day, keeps the feeling of being “taking for granted” at bay
Together you …read more

Let’s hear it for a group celebration – “Yes, we have made it through another week…together!”
So to help us over the next week is the normal set of Sunday articles to help us think positively

Andrew Heath presents Privilege to Be with a Loved One at the Time of Death posted at Andy, saying, “My dad was one of my greatest heroes. This is my tribute to his legacy.”

Fruitpunch presents A relationship to last a lifetime posted at Fruit Punch Diary.

Alexander De Foe presents Supercharge Your Creative Power posted at SpiritualBlog.com.
Anna presents How to be a successful failure posted at …read more

Blogger Galba Bright passed away this week – here is my post on his death in which I say
“Galba sleep tight, we will miss you hugely and thank you for leaving such wonderful emotional footprints all over the world”
 Galba was a wonderful, giving man.. what is strange is that I never met him, yet called him a friend. Isn’t that a strange part of social media, blogging, podcasting etc. I had interviewed him for my podcast about emotional intelligence only a couple of weeks ago…despite the thousands of miles between us, social media brought us together.
It also made me think …read more

Reflecting after a death is something that we do naturally. However, I think it is so important to make that reflection two way so that we grow and mature from the experience
R = Remember the good times and think what you brought to them so that you can learn about what makes you and those around you happy.
E = Emotions. Reflect on the strength of yor love. How love has affected your life and understand that love is a wonderful asset to have had in your life and therefore in the future.
F = Friends. I am a great believer that …read more

I posted a while ago about Watching Someone Die and Gloria just posted a comment that touched my heart, the comment ended
“The one thing I walk away with is the knowledge that he was a great man, an unbelievable father and an undying love and trust for God. He will help me through this.”
It touched me because I still remember the last moments of my Dad’s life, I still   remember feeling guilty of waiting for him to go…he was in such pain and I didn’t want that for him, I wanted him to be at peace. I loved him …read more