When you are feeling down or lonely, I don’t know about you but I tend to see the pain in my face. When I look in the mirror or catch my reflection in a window…all I see is an aging woman who I just don’t recognise.
I was trying to think the other day of the positives of getting old….?

Experience to handle life?
Memories to cherish
Ability to help younger people develop and grow
Family and extended family
More comfortable in your own skin

Maybe because it is one of those days! (I need our Widows Quest Support Group Meeting this Friday) but then I thought …read more

Over the last week we have had strange weather – hot, cold, rainy…we have had it all.
It made me think about how we choose our coat before we got out – we forecast what we need and choose the coat that will be the most appropriate. It is a cover, it is a cloak to protect our bodies.
In grief we need that protective layer, we need that protective layer for our heart and our soul. Each day we are faced with different emotional ‘forecasts’ and to come through the bereavement process we have to fit how we are feeling with …read more

I received a heart wrenching email yesterday, from a reader who just couldn’t face the world. She finished the email saying that I couldn’t know how she felt…..
That is true, none of us can know how someone else is feeling. However, I believe that hope is much better than despair. Let me tell you a true story.
Her heart was breaking, her grief was overwhelming her. She couldn’t face life without him. She spent a week tidying her house, setting her finances straight, seeing her friends….then went and bought her tablets and her drink which was finally going to make her …read more

Lizan left this comment to Loneliness – Even in a Crowd
“I sometimes feel absolutely deadly lonely, particularly when facing the weekend. I am so totally alone, it’s painful to think about…….. I am convinced it was meant to be” 
 I think we can all relate in one way to that feeling, when you are going through the grief process. I know I have often felt, was I born to be lonely? I believe though that human beings are born to love, that the ability to feel, the ability to love is what separates us from other species or even machinery! Loneliness takes …read more

I was listening to an album from The Feeling which inspired me to think about loneliness. As a widow you can feel incredibly lonely….however when you think about it lonely is a fact not an emotion ?
You are alone….so lonely is not an “if or a but” it is a fact…you are now alone with your life. Why is that important well, when it is a fact you can do something about it don’t you think? You can visit a friend, family or even join a club to make you “not alone” 
Sometimes when I feel lonely I think I see …read more

I wrote a post a while ago called P.S I miss You and in response to a comment left this week I wrote
“I feel lonely but I never feel alone”
That may sound strange, however I always feel him around me. When something happens I know or imagine what he would say to pick me up. I may be lonely because he is not physically there, but do you know….I never feel alone as I know he watches over me and I know that his love is like a warm blanket around my heart.
I also think on the good days …read more

Do you often think about what you should have done more of, what you should have done differently in the relationship? Grief is like that, somehow you forget what you gave to the relationship with your loved one and concentrate upon what you wish you had done more of….  
Well, as humans we are not perfect…we will always make mistakes but the one thing that I think about -  is the love that we show others. When I look back I know he knew how much I loved him, I know that…..I also know there were times that I was …read more