Widows Quest » lonliness http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Tue, 15 Dec 2009 22:08:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 en hourly 1 Planning for the future http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/planning-for-the-future/ http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/planning-for-the-future/#comments Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:41:59 +0000 Anna Farmery http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/?p=1537 Post from: Widows Quest

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I was inspired to write this post after seeing some wonderful comments from Maggie and Leslie in response to the post Eternal Love. Leslie wrote

“I think what I am doing lately is thinking too far in the future and all I can see is a life of loneliness. I should be concentrating on each day as it comes and I have had some really good ones lately.”

Grief is strange, we are dealing with the past…today…and trying to find a way of enjoying the future. So how do we do that? This is what helps me

  • I have written down a sentence which I would love to be mylegacy when I die. I have then put 5 things that I need to do, for people to recognise that legacy. This gives me a dream.
  • I then write down a plan for the progress I want to make over the next 12 months with 4 action points.
  • I then each month think of what steps I need to be taking to achieve my 12 month aim.thumbs-up_out-of-the-wall_feat

Does it work…not every day!!!…But it gives me something to get up for, something to hope for and on good days gives me a purpose. I don’t know if it will help your grieving process but I thought I would share it with other Widows and Widowers.

Maybe we could talk about this at our online grief support meeting on 10 July?

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