Today I returned to work and as always felt that overpowering power of “What is the point?” Now I don’t say this for any other reason that if other widows or widowers are feeling that….well, that is normal.

Loss throws life into turmoil. Our loved ones are our rocks, our stabilizing factors in the turbulent sea of life. But you know instead of wallowing I immersed myself and tried to get back to some normality. I understand that it doesn’t feel right, it doesn’t feel as though it has any meaning…but it will.

When faced with grief we can either whither away or we can stand up for all the values that we shared with those people we have lost. Nana was a hard worker, she believed in working for everything you got….and today I stood by those values. Not because I wanted to…but because that is what she would have wanted.

And do you know at the end of today I have achieved something. I have cleared some work and most of all proved that life goes on. I have proved to myself that the more I try to love this world without her, the more I will. I have proved to myself that I am strong and resourceful and I am proud of that…

Grief can leave you numb….but deep inside we can find the strength to carry on….deep inside we know that life will never be the same but that life is precious and we should all treasure it.

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Well it has been a strange week, I started in hospital and finished it in hospital however, the news today is that I am feeling brighter so again thank you for all your well wishes – I, for one, is in need for some positive thinking at the moment

Jason Koeppe presents How To Think Positively – Your Individual Development Plan posted at Z-Synergy Zurvita Reps Team Blog, saying, “A step-by-step action plan to improve your attitude and attract the right things into your life.”

Mac presents Talk To Someone posted at Samaritans, saying, “These people are fantastic at what they do.”

Anna presents When I Ask You To Listen to Me posted at The Engaging Brand

Dawn Abraham Life Coach presents Say Yes to Life and Let Your World Expand Beyond Belief! posted at Qualified Life Coach, saying, “Say yes to life is a powerful and life altering concept. It means you are open to all possibilities. You are flexible. You are not afraid to take risks. Do you know how fabulous your life can be when you are open and willing to fully participate?”

Stephen Martile presents Law of Attraction posted at FreedomEducation.ca by Stephen Martile, saying, “The Law of Attraction states that you attract what you think about. Thoughts are magnetic. I’ve arranged these principles into a question and answer format to make them easier for me to explain.

1. Who are you?
2. Why are you here?
3. What is your purpose?”

kenny mc bride presents The Power Of The Pen posted at Positive Thinking – A Realistic Approach, saying, “Writing you goals down is a vital part of achieving success. It is also important to write down your current problems and challenges so you can physically see your issues and free the mind to find solutions. Use the power of the pen to change your life today..”

Carole Gold presents Life and Death posted at McKay Today, saying, “How one cat taught a lesson in endurance and a true zest for life.”

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Bill Urell presents How Women Become Addicted | Addiction Recovery Basics posted at Addiction Recovery Basics, saying, “Lets start with history. For over a hundred years in this country, women and girls have been encouraged to self-medicate for emotional and physical symptoms of the hormonal cycle, which were labeled hysteria in the nineteenth century.”

Toni presents What if we change the perspective on what-ifs? posted at Happy Nest.

David B Bohl presents What To Do When Your Life is Falling Apart posted at Slow Down Fast Today!, saying, “You lost your job. Your best friend isn’t talking to you. You hurt your back. You are one month away from foreclosure on your home. Your child is sick. Your father died. It is really important that you can look deep into yourself and see that some of these things are beyond your control — while others are completely in your power to fix.”

Peter Murphy presents 5 Easy Ways To Drop Self-Doubt And The Fear Of Making Mistakes posted at Get Motivated Stay Motivated.

Kacper Wrzesniewski presents Just start. Energy will follow. posted at KacperWrzesniewski.com, saying, “Do you suffer from a lack of energy to start a new project or next task from your to do list? Not only you.”

Albert Foong presents The Importance of Setting Personal Boundaries » Personal Development – UrbanMonk.Net posted at Urban Monk.

HighGrace presents 3 things that will make you happier posted at Face to the Sun.

Erin Pavlina presents How do you recover after an emotional setback? posted at Erin Pavlina’s Blog, saying, “How do you raise your energy when you’ve been stepped on and emotionally trounced by another person, and your self esteem is so low that you can’t even imagine ever being happy again?”

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R = Remain hopeful. I know that sounds strange, but hope is a natural energiser of positive steps. Write down 3 things that you hope for, then start working towards them.

E = Enjoy the company of friends and family. In time, laughing will not feel guilty but the natural pleasure of a human being. I know you will feel that you want to be alone, but force yourself out and eventually you will learn to smile again.

B = Be realistic with your feelings. You will have good days, you will have bad days…that is totally normal. Try not to see how you are coping now, but how you are coping over time. I set myself targets of happiness! How many nights I slept in a row, how many days since I cried…to show me that I was progressing.

U= Understand that the only way that your heart will mend is by allowing it to open up to the risk of being hurt again. Don’t be afraid to talk to the opposite sex, it is just talking….

I = Involve yourself in activities. The community is always looking for volunteers. By giving to others, you start to feel better about yourself and grateful for what you HAVE rather than what you have lost.

L =Long term goals are important so that you have something to work towards. Again set yourself targets and track your progress. Mine was losing the weight that I had put on during the lead up to his death. I set myself a long term target of getting fit, eating healthily and losing 56lbs…I have done it!

D = Decide to not hold on to the past. I don’t mean lose the memories, but the past is the past. There is nothing that you can do now to change events. Write down 3 things that you have learnt about life, learnt about yourself and think of ways that you can put those learnings into action.

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Bereavement affects how you view and indeed live life. It can be guilt over the loss of your loved one, it   may be fear of coping in the future, it may be anger at someone dying, it may be that loss of feeling loved. I think it is important that we think about what is driving us because whatever it is, is taking control of our minds. If we can think about the emotions inside of us, then we can start addressing the issue.

I think as human beings we are at our happiest when we are in control of our lives, in control of our emotions…to regain that control we need to not let the past shape our future. So here are a couple of questions that I am starting to ask myself, maybe they will help you too

• What emotion is driving my life?
• How can I face that emotion so that I can regain control of my life?

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