Widows Quest » lost a partner http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest Redefine Yourself and Rediscover Life after a Loss Wed, 23 Dec 2009 17:57:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 en hourly 1 Defintion of Happiness http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/defintion-of-happiness/ http://www.blisstree.com/widowsquest/defintion-of-happiness/#comments Mon, 23 Jun 2008 10:47:21 +0000 Anna Farmery http://www.widowsquest.com/defintion-of-happiness/ Post from: Widows Quest

]]> Happiness for widows sometimes feel so far apart. Then you see the stories of how people have gone on to have a fulfilling life and you can see that a death of a loved one is hard – no doubt – but it really doesn’t have to remove any chance of happiness from our lives.

I read this quote from David Myers who is the Professor of Psychology at Hope College in a new book which is about bouncing back from failure

“Happiness seems less a matter of getting what we want than wanting what we have”

When you think of how that relates to bereavement, it is so true.

  • We have lost someone special however we have gained through falling in love.
  • We have lost a partner, a friend, a family member but we have the memories.
  • We have lost the chance of doing things together, and gained the chance to put our own dreams and aims at the forefront.
  •  We have felt huge pain, but gained a great humanity through that pain.

What do you miss….and what have you gained? Which do you concentrate your thoughts upon?

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